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Say What You Mean, Kindly and Clearly.
40 lessons · 6 themes · practical tips in every lesson
Ask for what you need, say no with respect and hold your ground without anger.
THEME 1 · 7 LESSONS
Understand Assertiveness
Find the line between passive and aggressive.
LESSON 01
Passive, Aggressive or Assertive?
LESSON 02
Why You Struggle to Speak Up
LESSON 03
Assertive Does Not Mean Rude
LESSON 04
Your Rights in Any Relationship
LESSON 05
Where Your Pattern Began
LESSON 06
Spot Your Own Passive Habits
LESSON 07
The Respect Equation
THEME 2 · 7 LESSONS
Say No Without Guilt
Protect your time and energy.
LESSON 08
The Power of a Calm No
LESSON 09
Five Kind Ways to Say No
LESSON 10
Say No Without Over-Explaining
LESSON 11
Buy Time Before You Answer
LESSON 12
Say No to Family Gently
LESSON 13
Say No at Work Smartly
LESSON 14
Handle Guilt After Saying No
THEME 3 · 7 LESSONS
Ask for What You Need
Make clear, confident requests.
LESSON 15
Make a Clear Request in One Sentence
LESSON 16
Ask for Help Without Shame
LESSON 17
Ask for a Raise or Promotion
LESSON 18
Ask for a Change in Behaviour
LESSON 19
Ask for Space or Time
LESSON 20
Follow Up on a Request
LESSON 21
Accept a No Gracefully
THEME 4 · 7 LESSONS
Set Boundaries That Stick
Say where your limits are and hold them.
LESSON 22
What Healthy Boundaries Sound Like
LESSON 23
The Broken-Record Technique
LESSON 24
Boundaries With Pushy People
LESSON 25
Boundaries With Friends and Family
LESSON 26
Boundaries Online
LESSON 27
When Someone Ignores Your Boundary
LESSON 28
Boundaries With Yourself
THEME 5 · 6 LESSONS
Speak Up in Hard Moments
Use clear words when it matters.
LESSON 29
The "I Feel, I Need" Sentence
LESSON 30
Respond to Criticism Calmly
LESSON 31
Give Honest Feedback Kindly
LESSON 32
Disagree Without a Fight
LESSON 33
Handle an Interrupter
LESSON 34
Stay Calm When Someone Gets Angry
THEME 6 · 6 LESSONS
Make Assertiveness a Habit
Practise until it feels natural.
LESSON 35
Start With Low-Risk Practice
LESSON 36
Rehearse With a Friend
LESSON 37
Use a Script for Tough Talks
LESSON 38
Review Each Conversation Kindly
LESSON 39
Celebrate Each Assertive Win
LESSON 40
Your Assertiveness Plan
Ideas in this topic come from
- Crucial Conversations (Kerry Patterson and others)
- Nonviolent Communication (Marshall Rosenberg)
- Playing Big (Tara Mohr)
- Lean In (Sheryl Sandberg)
- When I Say No, I Feel Guilty (Manuel Smith)
Tips are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.
