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Keep Your Friends for Life.

40 lessons · 6 themes · practical tips in every lesson

Habits, rituals and small acts that keep friendships strong through busy years and big changes.

THEME 1 · 7 LESSONS

Why Friendships Fade

See the quiet reasons friendships drift.

Why Good Friendships Fade Without a Fight
LESSON 01

Why Good Friendships Fade Without a Fight

Time, Distance and Busy Seasons
LESSON 02

Time, Distance and Busy Seasons

Life Stages and Friend Drift
LESSON 03

Life Stages and Friend Drift

The Silence Spiral
LESSON 04

The Silence Spiral

Why It Is Never Too Late to Reconnect
LESSON 05

Why It Is Never Too Late to Reconnect

Friendship Needs Maintenance Like Anything Else
LESSON 06

Friendship Needs Maintenance Like Anything Else

What Long Friendships Have in Common
LESSON 07

What Long Friendships Have in Common

THEME 2 · 7 LESSONS

Daily and Weekly Habits

Tiny actions with big effects.

The Five-Minute Check-In
LESSON 08

The Five-Minute Check-In

Share Something That Made You Think of Them
LESSON 09

Share Something That Made You Think of Them

React to Their Posts Meaningfully
LESSON 10

React to Their Posts Meaningfully

Send a Voice Note on Your Walk
LESSON 11

Send a Voice Note on Your Walk

Keep a Standing Weekly Call
LESSON 12

Keep a Standing Weekly Call

The Birthday Habit
LESSON 13

The Birthday Habit

Gratitude Messages for No Reason
LESSON 14

Gratitude Messages for No Reason

THEME 3 · 7 LESSONS

Rituals That Last

Traditions that hold friendships together.

The Annual Trip or Reunion
LESSON 15

The Annual Trip or Reunion

Monthly Dinner or Game Night
LESSON 16

Monthly Dinner or Game Night

Holiday Traditions With Friends
LESSON 17

Holiday Traditions With Friends

Book Clubs and Shared Projects
LESSON 18

Book Clubs and Shared Projects

Walk-and-Talk Dates
LESSON 19

Walk-and-Talk Dates

Create a Friend Group Chat Worth Keeping
LESSON 20

Create a Friend Group Chat Worth Keeping

Celebrate Milestones Together
LESSON 21

Celebrate Milestones Together

THEME 4 · 7 LESSONS

Long-Distance Friendship

Stay close across miles.

Make Time Zones Work
LESSON 22

Make Time Zones Work

Video Calls With Purpose
LESSON 23

Video Calls With Purpose

Watch, Play or Cook Together Online
LESSON 24

Watch, Play or Cook Together Online

Send Letters, Cards and Surprises
LESSON 25

Send Letters, Cards and Surprises

Plan Visits Well in Advance
LESSON 26

Plan Visits Well in Advance

Make Every Reunion Count
LESSON 27

Make Every Reunion Count

Keep the Daily Life Connection
LESSON 28

Keep the Daily Life Connection

THEME 5 · 6 LESSONS

Repair and Reconnect

Fix gaps, hurts and drifting.

Reach Out After a Long Silence
LESSON 29

Reach Out After a Long Silence

Apologise Sincerely and Simply
LESSON 30

Apologise Sincerely and Simply

Forgive Without Forgetting Yourself
LESSON 31

Forgive Without Forgetting Yourself

Resolve a Misunderstanding
LESSON 32

Resolve a Misunderstanding

Rebuild After a Disagreement
LESSON 33

Rebuild After a Disagreement

Make Peace With Friends Who Have Changed
LESSON 34

Make Peace With Friends Who Have Changed

THEME 6 · 6 LESSONS

Friendships for a Lifetime

Build a circle that lasts.

Nurture a Circle, Not Just a Few People
LESSON 35

Nurture a Circle, Not Just a Few People

Make New Friends at Every Age
LESSON 36

Make New Friends at Every Age

Be a Friend to Older and Younger People
LESSON 37

Be a Friend to Older and Younger People

Leave Room for Change
LESSON 38

Leave Room for Change

Let Go Kindly When You Must
LESSON 39

Let Go Kindly When You Must

Your Lifelong Friendship Plan
LESSON 40

Your Lifelong Friendship Plan

Ideas in this topic come from

  • The Good Life (Robert Waldinger and Marc Schulz)
  • Friends (Robin Dunbar)
  • Platonic (Marisa Franco)
  • Together (Vivek Murthy)
  • Vital Friends (Tom Rath)

Tips are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.

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