Suggest Meeting Again Casually
Thirty easy ways to suggest meeting again casually, so a nice chat turns into a second hello.
Keep it casual. Ask while it feels good.
28 tips that really help
These ideas come from How to Win Friends and Influence People (Dale Carnegie), The Like Switch (Jack Schafer), The Charisma Myth (Olivia Fox Cabane), and everyday practice. Pick one tip and try it today.
Why ask casually
People like clear and easy invites. A casual suggestion turns a nice chat into the start of a friendship.
Ask.
End on a high note
Ask while the mood is warm. Do not wait.
Ask now.
Mention something you enjoyed
Say, I enjoyed talking about hiking. Warm opening.
Mention it.
Suggest a small plan
Coffee, a walk or a lunch. Small plans feel easy.
Suggest small.
Name the activity
Shall we grab coffee sometime? Clear is kind.
Be clear.
Offer a rough time
Maybe next week? Gives direction without pressure.
Offer a time.
Ask for contact details
Can I get your number? Easy and natural.
Ask it.
Use a shared hook
I will message you about that event. A link makes sense.
Use a link.
Keep it light
No pressure, only if you want. Easy to answer.
Add it.
Follow up within two days
Send a short message soon. Keep the warmth.
Message soon.
Make it specific in the message
Suggest a day and place. Specific plans happen.
Be specific.
Script: suggesting
Shall we grab coffee sometime this week? Say it lightly.
Use it.
Script: contact
Can I get your number so I can message you? Say it kindly.
Use it.
Script: link
I will message you about that event. Say it easily.
Use it.
Script: easy
No pressure at all, only if you would like to. Say it warmly.
Use it.
Script: closing
It was lovely to chat, see you soon. Say it gladly.
Use it.
Mistake: waiting too long
Warmth fades, so ask on the day.
Ask soon.
Mistake: being vague
Maybe sometime rarely happens, so name a plan.
Name a plan.
Mistake: making it too big
Big plans scare people, so keep small.
Keep small.
Mistake: apologising for asking
Sorry weakens an invite, so ask gladly.
Ask gladly.
Troubleshoot: when they say maybe
Say, great, I will message you, and follow up. Light.
Follow up.
Troubleshoot: when they say no
Say, no problem, it was nice to meet you. Kind.
Stay kind.
Troubleshoot: when you forget to ask
Message them within a day and say it was nice. Still works.
Message.
Troubleshoot: when they do not reply
Wait a week and send one gentle follow-up. Then let go.
Follow up once.
Troubleshoot: when you feel nervous
Practise the line once, breathe and ask. Brief.
Breathe.
Drill: write your invite line
Write two invite lines and say them aloud. Ready.
Write them.
Drill: ask one person this week
Ask one new person to meet again. Do it.
Ask.
Drill: send a follow-up
Send one friendly follow-up message today. Warm.
Send it.
Easy things to say
When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many everyday friendships.
“Shall we grab coffee sometime?”
“Can I get your number?”
“I will message you about that event.”
“No pressure, only if you want.”
“Great, see you then.”
“It was lovely to chat.”
Your first week
One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.
End on a high
Suggest a plan
Swap contacts
Keep it light
Confirm
Message soon
Meet
Further reading
- How to Win Friends and Influence People (Dale Carnegie)
- The Like Switch (Jack Schafer)
- The Charisma Myth (Olivia Fox Cabane)
The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.
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- The Spotlight Effect at Parties
- A Rejection Is Rarely What You Imagine
- Why Waiting Makes It Harder
- Reframe Approaching as Being Kind
- The Worst Realistic Outcome Is Small
- Spot Open and Closed Signals
- The Right Moment to Say Hello
- Approach Alone, Pairs and Groups Differently
- What to Do When They Look Busy
- Wait for the Natural Pause
- Notice Who Is Standing Alone
- Be Respectful if It Is Not the Time
- Smile Before You Speak
- Walk Over at an Angle, Not Straight On
- Keep Open and Relaxed Posture
- The Friendly Introduction Handshake
- Eye Contact That Feels Warm
- Say Your Name With a Smile
- Do Not Hover: Commit to Hello
- Comment on the Shared Situation
- Ask for a Small Opinion
- Give a Genuine Compliment
- Ask for a Small Favour
- Introduce Yourself Simply
- The Question That Starts Any Chat
- Use Humour Lightly
- Approach at a Party
- Approach at Work
- Approach in Class
- Approach at the Gym
- Approach Online First
- Approach a Neighbour
- Keep the Chat Going for One More Minute
- Exit Gracefully if It Is Not Clicking
- Suggest Meeting Again Casually
- Handle a Cool Reception Without Hurt
- Reflect and Learn After Each Approach
- Practise Approaching Every Week
