Notice Feet and Direction
Thirty-two ways to notice feet and direction, the honest parts of body language that point to where attention wants to go.
Feet point where the mind is going. Notice, then be considerate.
40 tips that really help
These ideas come from Presence (Amy Cuddy), What Every BODY Is Saying (Joe Navarro), The Definitive Book of Body Language (Allan and Barbara Pease), and everyday practice. Pick one tip and try it today.
Feet point where the mind is going
Our feet often point toward what interests us or toward where we want to go. Because we pay less attention to our feet, they can be an honest clue about attention and intention.
Glance at where someone’s feet point in your next conversation.
Feet toward you
Feet and torso turned toward you usually signal interest and engagement.
Notice it.
Feet toward the exit
Feet pointing toward the door may signal a wish to leave. It might be time to wrap up kindly.
Wrap up warmly.
Feet in a group
In a group, people’s feet often point toward those they are most interested in. Notice the pattern.
Observe a group.
Open and closed circles
Groups whose feet make an open circle welcome newcomers. A closed huddle may be in a private chat.
Look for open circles.
Still feet
Still feet suggest calm. Bouncing or tapping suggests nerves or impatience.
Notice movement.
Crossed ankles
Crossed ankles can be comfortable or can signal holding back. Look at other signs.
Do not over-read.
Planted feet
Feet firmly on the floor show stability and confidence. Planted feet help you stay calm too.
Plant yours.
Feet apart
A moderate stance looks grounded. Very wide can look aggressive.
Hip-width.
Feet together
Feet together can look formal or tentative. Fine for ceremonies.
Use when appropriate.
Notice your own feet
Where are your feet pointing right now? Aim them at the person you are speaking to.
Turn your feet.
Align your feet with your interest
Pointing your feet toward the person you are talking to shows engagement.
Turn toward them.
Do not point away
Feet pointing away while you speak may signal a wish to leave. Face your listener.
Face them.
Do not tap or shake
Shaking or tapping feet is distracting. Press them down.
Settle.
Do not shuffle
Shuffling can look nervous. Stand still.
Stand firm.
Scene: meeting someone
Turn your feet toward them as you greet. It signals welcome.
Turn.
Scene: joining a group
Move your feet to form a gap and turn them toward the group. It signals inclusion.
Make space.
Scene: leaving a conversation
When you want to end, turn your feet toward the exit and say a warm goodbye.
Close kindly.
Scene: at a party
Notice where people’s feet point to find who is open to a chat.
Observe.
Scene: in an interview
Keep your feet flat and pointed toward the interviewer. It shows readiness.
Plant.
Scene: on a date
Feet pointing toward each other signal attraction and comfort.
Notice.
Scene: at a meeting
People may point their feet toward the door or the leader. Notice.
Observe.
Scene: at a queue
Feet help you read who is next and who is leaving.
Watch.
Scene: in a lift
Face forward, plant your feet and relax.
Settle.
Scene: on a train
Keep your feet out of the aisle. Be considerate.
Be mindful.
Scene: on video
Feet are out of view, but how you sit affects posture. Keep them flat.
Sit well.
Scene: when nervous
Press your feet into the floor to ground yourself.
Ground.
Scene: when bored
Bored feet fidget. Re-engage by asking a question.
Engage.
Scene: when excited
Excited feet bounce. Channel it into a smile.
Smile.
Scene: when tired
Tired feet slump or shuffle. Take a break.
Rest.
Scene: when cold
Cold feet shift and curl. Warm them with socks.
Warm.
Check your shoes
Comfortable shoes help you stand still and calm. Choose well.
Wear comfortable shoes.
Check the floor
Slippery or uneven floors can make you shift. Adjust.
Be careful.
Check your balance
Even weight helps. Practise standing evenly.
Balance.
Be cautious with reading
Feet are one clue among many. Combine with other signals.
Stay open.
Be kind
If someone’s feet suggest they want to go, offer an easy exit. It is a courtesy.
Offer.
Practise observing
Watch feet in public places and guess intentions. Check later.
Practise.
Celebrate awareness
Noticing feet adds a layer of understanding. Enjoy it.
Note it.
Use your feet to welcome people
When someone approaches, turn your feet and torso toward them and take a half-step in. It makes the greeting feel warm and personal without a word.
Turn your whole body toward the next person who greets you.
Do not read feet in a crowd
In packed spaces, feet point where space allows, not where interest lies. Reading feet works best in open, comfortable settings where people can choose their stance.
Use foot cues only when people have room to move.
Easy things to say
When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many everyday situations.
“Do you need to get going?”
“Please, join our circle.”
“Would you like to take a seat?”
“We were just talking about you.”
“Thanks for spending time with me.”
“I will let you go.”
Your first week
One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.
Watch the toes
Notice torso direction
Open the circle
Turn toward people
Spot the exit signal
Be kind about endings
Check yourself
Further reading
- Presence (Amy Cuddy)
- What Every BODY Is Saying (Joe Navarro)
- The Definitive Book of Body Language (Allan and Barbara Pease)
The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.
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