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LESSON 18 · HOW TO FOLLOW UP

Send a Voice Note

Thirty-two easy ways to send a voice note, a warm and human way to follow up that people love.

Your voice carries warmth. Keep it short and happy.

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30 tips that really help

These ideas come from Never Eat Alone (Keith Ferrazzi), Platonic (Marisa Franco), How to Win Friends and Influence People (Dale Carnegie), and everyday practice. Pick one tip and try it today.

TIP 1

Voice is warm

Your tone, laughter and care come through your voice. Voice notes can feel like a tiny visit.

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Try one.

TIP 2

Choose the right person

Use voice notes with people who already use them or enjoy them. Ask first if unsure.

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Pick wisely.

TIP 3

Plan your words

Think of your main point and one question. Two or three sentences.

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Plan.

TIP 4

Find a quiet place

Background noise distracts. Choose a calm space.

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Go quiet.

TIP 5

Smile as you speak

A smile changes your tone. People can hear it.

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Smile.

TIP 6

Start with your name

Say, hi Maya, it is Sam. It helps if their phone does not show the name.

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Say it.

TIP 7

Keep it under a minute

Short notes are easy to play. Thirty seconds is perfect.

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Be brief.

TIP 8

Speak slowly and clearly

Slow speech is easier to follow, especially on a phone. Pause between ideas.

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Slow down.

TIP 9

Add a question

End with a light question so they can reply. Voice back is fun.

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Ask one.

TIP 10

Listen before sending

Play it once to check tone and sound. Re-record if needed.

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Check it.

TIP 11

Respect their time

Not everyone likes listening to long voice notes. Offer text if they prefer.

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Ask them.

TIP 12

Keep private things private

Do not record sensitive things where others might hear. Use headphones.

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Be careful.

TIP 13

Script: greeting

Hi Maya, it is Sam, just wanted to say hello. Say it warmly.

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Use it.

TIP 14

Script: sharing

I saw something funny today and thought of you. Say it brightly.

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Use it.

TIP 15

Script: asking

How is your week going so far? Say it with interest.

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Use it.

TIP 16

Script: planning

Would you like to meet for a walk this weekend? Say it lightly.

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Use it.

TIP 17

Script: closing

Okay, talk soon, take care. Say it cheerfully.

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Use it.

TIP 18

Mistake: sending a very long note

Long notes are hard to play, so keep yours under a minute.

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Shorten.

TIP 19

Mistake: rambling with no point

Without a point it feels like noise, so plan your main idea.

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Plan.

TIP 20

Mistake: recording in a noisy place

Noise makes it hard to understand, so find a quiet spot.

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Move.

TIP 21

Mistake: sending voice notes to people who dislike them

Respect their style and switch to text if they prefer.

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Ask.

TIP 22

Mistake: sounding rushed or flat

A rushed voice feels cold, so breathe and smile before you record.

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Slow.

TIP 23

Troubleshoot: when you feel shy about your voice

Practise once privately, then send a short one. Most people love hearing friends.

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Try short.

TIP 24

Troubleshoot: when you stumble

It is fine. A small laugh and carry on. Real voices are charming.

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Relax.

TIP 25

Troubleshoot: when they do not reply by voice

Do not worry. Some reply by text. Both are fine.

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Be flexible.

TIP 26

Troubleshoot: when you share a home

Use headphones or a private room. Respect privacy.

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Find privacy.

TIP 27

Troubleshoot: when English is not your first language

Speak slowly and keep sentences short. Warmth matters more than perfect grammar.

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Be clear.

TIP 28

Drill: record a practice note

Record a 20-second note to yourself and listen. Improve tone.

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Try it.

TIP 29

Drill: send one to a friend

Send a short voice note to a close friend today. Notice the reply.

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Send.

TIP 30

Drill: three-sentence formula

Practise: greeting, one detail, one question. Repeat daily.

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Practise.

Easy things to say

When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many everyday friendships.

GREET

“Hi, it is Sam, just saying hello.”

SHARE

“I wanted to tell you about this.”

ASK

“How is your week going?”

PLAN

“Want to meet this weekend?”

THANK

“Thanks for listening.”

CLOSE

“Talk soon, bye.”

Your first week

One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.

DAY 1
Plan your words

DAY 2
Find a quiet place

DAY 3
Smile as you speak

DAY 4
Keep it short

DAY 5
Speak slowly

DAY 6
End with a question

DAY 7
Listen before sending

Further reading

• Never Eat Alone (Keith Ferrazzi)
• Platonic (Marisa Franco)
• How to Win Friends and Influence People (Dale Carnegie)

The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.

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