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Look Up. Connect. Be Remembered.
40 lessons · 6 themes · practical tips in every lesson
Comfortable, warm eye contact in every setting, from first hellos to video calls.
THEME 1 · 7 LESSONS
Why Eye Contact Matters
See what a simple look can do.
LESSON 01
What Eye Contact Really Says
LESSON 02
Why Looking Away Feels Safer
LESSON 03
The Trust Signal in Your Eyes
LESSON 04
How Eye Contact Builds Connection
LESSON 05
What Science Says About Gaze
LESSON 06
Too Little, Too Much, Just Right
LESSON 07
Why It Feels Hard, and Why It Gets Easier
THEME 2 · 7 LESSONS
Start Comfortably
Gentle steps for shy and nervous people.
LESSON 08
Begin With the Space Between the Eyebrows
LESSON 09
The Three-Second Rule
LESSON 10
Look at the Eyes, Then the Smile
LESSON 11
Practise With a Mirror First
LESSON 12
Practise With a Pet or a Photo
LESSON 13
Hold a Gaze for One More Second
LESSON 14
Build Up Slowly Day by Day
THEME 3 · 7 LESSONS
Eye Contact in Conversation
Make it natural, never a staring contest.
LESSON 15
Look While Listening, Glance While Thinking
LESSON 16
The Triangle Technique
LESSON 17
Break Eye Contact the Natural Way
LESSON 18
Eye Contact in Groups
LESSON 19
Keep Contact When You Are Talking About Yourself
LESSON 20
Match the Other Person's Comfort
LESSON 21
Use Your Eyes to Show Interest
THEME 4 · 7 LESSONS
Eye Contact for Special Moments
First meetings, interviews and tough talks.
LESSON 22
The First Hello
LESSON 23
Job Interviews and Eye Contact
LESSON 24
Eye Contact When Saying Sorry
LESSON 25
Eye Contact on a Date
LESSON 26
Hold Your Gaze When Saying No
LESSON 27
Eye Contact When Giving a Speech
LESSON 28
Eye Contact With Someone Senior
THEME 5 · 6 LESSONS
Eye Contact Online
Look natural on screen.
LESSON 29
Look at the Camera, Not the Screen
LESSON 30
Set Your Screen Up for Better Contact
LESSON 31
Nod and React on Video
LESSON 32
Avoid the Wandering Eye Online
LESSON 33
Look Present on a Long Call
LESSON 34
Build Warmth Through a Lens
THEME 6 · 6 LESSONS
Culture, Comfort and Kindness
Respect differences and your own comfort.
LESSON 35
Eye Contact Rules Around the World
LESSON 36
When Eye Contact Is Hard for Neurodivergent People
LESSON 37
Respect Someone Who Avoids Your Gaze
LESSON 38
Keep It Gentle, Never Intense
LESSON 39
Your Daily Eye Contact Challenge
LESSON 40
Make It a Natural Habit
Ideas in this topic come from
- What Every BODY Is Saying (Joe Navarro)
- The Definitive Book of Body Language (Allan and Barbara Pease)
- Presence (Amy Cuddy)
- The Like Switch (Jack Schafer)
- Quiet (Susan Cain)
Tips are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.
