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LESSON 33 · MAKING EYE CONTACT

Look Present on a Long Call

Thirty-two ways to look present and energised on a long call, without staring or burning out.

Long calls drain attention. Small habits keep you present.

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40 tips that really help

These ideas come from What Every BODY Is Saying (Joe Navarro), The Definitive Book of Body Language (Allan and Barbara Pease), Presence (Amy Cuddy), and everyday practice. Pick one tip and try it today.

TIP 1

Long calls drain attention

After forty minutes on screen, attention naturally fades, and the face goes flat. You can stay present with tiny breaks and body movements, without anyone noticing you have rested.

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Plan one mini-break in every call longer than forty minutes.

TIP 2

The twenty-twenty-twenty habit

Eye specialists often suggest looking at something about twenty feet away for twenty seconds every twenty minutes. On a call, glance at a far window or door while someone else is speaking.

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Glance at a far wall for twenty seconds during a long speaker.

TIP 3

Blink on purpose

We blink far less when we look at screens, which makes eyes dry and tired. A slow, deliberate blink every few seconds refreshes them and softens your look on camera.

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Blink slowly three times now.

TIP 4

Take sips on schedule

Sip water at the start of each agenda item. The small movement refreshes you, hydrates your voice and gives your eyes a natural reset.

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Place a glass beside you and sip at every new topic.

TIP 5

Roll your shoulders under the frame

Tension builds quickly in a long call. A slow shoulder roll and neck stretch below the camera’s view release it without disturbing anyone.

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Roll your shoulders once every ten minutes.

TIP 6

Sit tall, then change position

Slouching adds fatigue, so sit tall, and shift your posture every fifteen minutes. A small position change wakes you up.

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Change your sitting position at the half-hour mark.

TIP 7

Stand for part of the call

If you can, stand for a section, such as the final twenty minutes. Standing lifts energy and brightens your face and voice.

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Raise your laptop or use a stack of boxes to stand for a segment.

TIP 8

Use speaker view to reduce clutter

Looking at a grid of faces is tiring. Speaker view reduces visual noise so your eyes rest on one person at a time.

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Switch to speaker view in your next large call.

TIP 9

Hide self-view

Watching yourself all the time is exhausting and makes you self-critical. Hide it and give your attention to others.

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Turn off self-view.

TIP 10

Take notes by hand

Writing gives your eyes and hands a task and keeps you engaged. Look up when someone makes a key point.

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Keep a pen and notepad beside the camera.

TIP 11

Ask a question

A question keeps you alert and shows presence. It also gives you a reason to look at the lens.

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Prepare one question for every call.

TIP 12

Summarise a point

Paraphrasing a point in your head, or aloud when appropriate, keeps your mind in the conversation.

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Summarise one point silently every ten minutes.

TIP 13

Use the chat

A short chat comment shows you are present and gives you something small to do.

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Add one comment per half hour.

TIP 14

Smile at the right moments

A smile when someone says something good refreshes your face and mood.

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Smile at the next good point.

TIP 15

Nod

Nodding keeps you alert and shows you are present.

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Nod softly when it fits.

TIP 16

Eat well beforehand

A good meal helps energy. Avoid a sugar crash before a long call.

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Eat protein before long calls.

TIP 17

Go easy on caffeine

Too much can make you jittery, and a crash can make you flat. Use moderately.

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Limit coffee before a long call.

TIP 18

Sleep well

Rest helps attention more than any trick.

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Protect your sleep before a big day of calls.

TIP 19

Leave gaps between calls

Back-to-back calls are exhausting. Even five minutes between them helps your eyes and mind recover.

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Block five minutes after each call.

TIP 20

Suggest shorter meetings

Twenty-five or fifty minutes leave time to reset. Many teams find shorter meetings more productive.

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Propose shorter slots for your own meetings.

TIP 21

Suggest walking calls

Some one-to-one calls can be done by phone while walking. Movement and fresh air restore energy.

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Take one call on a walk.

TIP 22

Suggest breaks in long sessions

A five-minute break each hour helps everyone. Ask politely.

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Suggest a break in your next long meeting.

TIP 23

Suggest camera-off breaks

If the culture allows, turning the camera off briefly for a stretch or water can help. Say so kindly.

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Ask if a short break would suit the group.

TIP 24

Look kindly at faces

Your attention nourishes speakers. Even when tired, a kind look helps them.

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Look at each speaker for a few seconds.

TIP 25

Look at the lens when you speak

Look at the lens when you contribute. It makes your presence feel stronger even when you are tired.

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Look at the lens for your key line.

TIP 26

Keep your face relaxed

Tension tires you. Soften your forehead and jaw.

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Relax your face.

TIP 27

Breathe

Slow breaths refresh your body and mind.

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Take a slow breath.

TIP 28

Change position

Shift in your chair, stretch your legs, flex your feet. Small movement helps.

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Move a little.

TIP 29

Use a fidget below the frame

A quiet fidget can help restless energy without drawing attention.

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Try a small stress ball.

TIP 30

Keep the light on

Good light helps alertness. Dim rooms make you sleepy.

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Turn on a lamp.

TIP 31

Open a window

Fresh air helps you stay alert.

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Open a window.

TIP 32

Dim the screen if it glares

Too much brightness tires eyes. Adjust.

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Lower brightness slightly.

TIP 33

Use a warmer screen colour in the evening

Evening calls may suit warmer screen colours to ease strain.

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Adjust your screen colour.

TIP 34

Do not multitask

It exhausts you and everyone can tell. Do one thing.

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Focus on one task.

TIP 35

Be honest when you fade

If you are fading, ask for a break or a recap. Honesty helps.

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Say, “Could we take a short break?”

TIP 36

Plan your low points

Most people fade at predictable times, such as just after lunch. Plan a stretch, a sip or a standing moment exactly then.

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Note when you tend to fade and prepare a reset.

TIP 37

Recover after

After a long call, step away, move and look at something far away. Your body needs it.

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Take a five-minute walk.

TIP 38

Celebrate stamina

Staying present through a long call is a real skill. Notice how you did it.

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Say, “I stayed present.”

TIP 39

Use the first and last five minutes

People remember the start and end of a call best. Give those minutes your freshest attention and your warmest looks, and you can ease slightly in the middle.

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Plan to be extra present in the opening and closing.

TIP 40

Make eye contact a reward, not a chore

Treat looking at the lens or at a face as a small pleasure, like smiling at a friend. A kinder attitude uses less energy than forcing yourself to stay alert.

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Remind yourself, “I get to connect with these people.”

Easy things to say

When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many everyday situations.

START

“Thanks everyone, let us begin.”

BREAK

“Shall we take a short break?”

RECAP

“Let me summarise what we have covered.”

ASK

“Does anyone want to add something?”

THANK

“Thank you for staying engaged.”

“We made good progress today.”

Your first week

One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.

DAY 1
Sit well

DAY 2
Drink water

DAY 3
Take micro breaks

DAY 4
Rest your eyes

DAY 5
Vary your posture

DAY 6
Ask questions

DAY 7
Recap at the end

More lessons in “Making Eye Contact”

Keep going. Small steps every day make a big change.

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