Dress for the Customer You Serve
Forty practical ways to dress for the customer you serve, so your appearance respects their world.
Dress says “I respect you”. Match the setting, not a stereotype.
40 tips that really help
These ideas come from Dress for Success (John T. Molloy), The Culture Map (Erin Meyer), Kiss, Bow, or Shake Hands (Terri Morrison and Wayne Conaway), and What Every Body Is Saying (Joe Navarro), and everyday practice. The first six help the most. Pick one and try it today.
What your clothes say before you do
Before you say a word, your clothes have already spoken. In a few seconds, a customer reads your care, respect and fit with their world. It is not about fashion or money, but about showing that you took the meeting seriously.
Before your next meeting, look at yourself in a mirror and ask, ‘What do these clothes say about how I see this customer?’ Fix one thing.
Dress one step above your customer
A simple guide is to dress one step above your customer. If they wear jeans and a shirt, you wear smart trousers and a shirt. This shows respect without making you look out of place. One step is enough.
Before your next meeting, find out how your customer usually dresses, and plan an outfit one step smarter.
Comfort shows in your face
If your clothes pinch, itch or restrict you, your face shows it, and the customer may feel that you are tense. Smart does not mean uncomfortable. Choose good fit, soft fabrics and sensible shoes, and test your outfit before the big day.
Wear your planned outfit for an hour at home before an important meeting. Sit, stand and walk in it, and fix anything that bothers you.
Learn the dress code of their culture
Dress has different meanings around the world. In some places, covered shoulders and knees show respect, and in others a tie or a colour has special meaning. A little research shows great respect.
Before a meeting with someone from a different culture, ask a trusted local colleague two questions: what is normal to wear, and what should I avoid?
Lay out your clothes the night before
A calm morning begins the night before. If you lay out your clothes, check them and fix any small problem in advance, you wake without stress. It takes five minutes and saves you from last-minute panic.
Tonight, lay out tomorrow’s outfit, check for stains, wrinkles and missing buttons, and put your bag, keys and documents beside it.
Dress for the screen, not only the room
On video, you are seen from the waist up, in small boxes, with changing light. Some patterns flicker and some colours wash you out. Choose solid, medium colours and a neat collar, and test your look before the call.
Before your next video call, open your camera, and check your colour, collar and light. Change one thing if it looks poor.
Tidy bag, tidy mind
A customer sees your bag, your folder and your pen. A tidy bag tells them you are organised and careful, and a bag that overflows may suggest a muddled mind. Keep only what you need, and clean it each week.
Empty your work bag today. Throw away old papers, wipe the inside and put back only what you need for the week.
Remove what distracts
Anything that pulls the customer’s eye away from you can weaken trust: loud prints, big logos, noisy jewellery, strong perfume. The best look supports your words and does not compete with them.
Before your next meeting, look in the mirror and find the one thing that stands out most. If it is not your face and smile, simplify it.
Smell of nothing, or of fresh air
Smell is powerful and personal. Strong perfume, smoke, sweat or heavy food can make a customer uncomfortable, and they may not tell you. The safest choice is to smell of nothing, or of clean air.
Before your next meeting, wash, wear fresh clothes and use no scent or a very light one. Skip strong food at lunch.
Arrive neat, whatever the weather
Rain, wind, heat and snow can ruin a neat look before you reach the door. With a little planning, you can step in neat and calm in any season. Carry a small kit: a comb, tissue, an umbrella and spare socks.
Prepare a small ‘arrival kit’ for your bag today: a comb, tissues, a small umbrella and a spare pair of socks. Check it each week.
Refresh your look once a year
Clothes wear out, fashions change and so do we. Once a year, take an hour to look at your whole work wardrobe. Remove what is worn, stained or no longer fits, and replace the most important pieces.
This week, spend thirty minutes trying on your work clothes. Set aside anything worn or too tight, and make a short list of two items to replace.
Ask about the dress code in advance
The simplest way to dress well for a customer is to ask. A short, polite question before the meeting removes the guesswork and shows respect. People are glad to answer, and they remember that you asked.
Next time you book a meeting, add one line: ‘Is there a dress code I should follow for your office?’
Visit sites safely: boots, hats and vests
On a building site, a farm or a factory, safety comes first. Boots, hard hats, high-visibility vests and gloves show that you respect the people who work there and the rules that keep them safe.
Before your next site visit, ask what protective gear is required, and check that your own boots, vest and hat are clean and in good condition.
Dress for a factory floor
A factory is a place of noise, machines and routine. Wear closed, sturdy shoes, plain clothes without dangling parts and any safety gear required. Loose scarves, long jewellery and open sandals are dangerous near machines.
Before a factory visit, remove loose jewellery, tie back long hair, and wear closed, sturdy shoes and plain clothes.
Dress for a farm or a field
On a farm, people work with soil, animals and weather. Practical, sturdy clothes show that you respect their work. Clean, simple boots, durable trousers and a weatherproof jacket are better than fine city clothes.
Before a farm visit, find waterproof boots, durable trousers and a weatherproof jacket. Ask the farmer if there are rules about hygiene or gates.
Dress for a hospital or a school
In a hospital or a school, people may be sick, young or worried. Dress should be calm, clean and modest. Avoid strong scents, loud prints and loud shoes, and follow hygiene and safety rules strictly.
Before a visit to a hospital or school, ask about the rules for badges, masks, hand cleaning and shoes. Choose calm, clean, modest clothes.
Dress for a bank or a law firm
Banks and law firms deal with money, rights and risk, and their customers expect care, order and formality. A clean, well-pressed suit or smart outfit in quiet colours tells them that you are serious and trustworthy.
For your next bank or law-firm meeting, choose a pressed, dark or neutral outfit, polish your shoes and carry a neat bag.
Dress for a start-up
Many start-ups prefer casual, creative dress, and a suit may make you seem stiff or out of touch. But being too casual may look careless. The best choice is neat, relaxed and a little polished.
Look at the founders’ photos online. Choose a neat, relaxed outfit one step smarter than theirs: clean shoes, a good shirt, tidy hair.
Dress for a hot country
In a hot country, comfort and respect must go together. Light, breathable fabrics in light colours keep you cool, but local customs often ask for modest dress with covered shoulders and knees.
Before travel to a hot country, buy two light, breathable shirts or tops, and check local customs about covering shoulders and knees.
Dress for the cold
In cold weather, you must stay warm without looking bulky or untidy. Layers are the answer: a warm base, a smart middle layer and a good coat. Take your coat off at the door, so that you look neat inside.
On your next cold day, wear a thin warm layer under your smart clothes. Carry dry shoes, and take your coat off at the door.
Dress for a long day
A long day of meetings, travel and calls asks a lot from your clothes and your body. Choose an outfit that stays neat and comfortable from morning to evening, with fabrics that do not crease, shoes you can walk in and layers you can adjust.
Plan tomorrow’s outfit for the whole day. Choose crease-resistant fabric, comfortable shoes and one layer you can add or remove.
Shoes: clean and quiet
Many people look at shoes, even if they do not say so. Clean, polished shoes tell a customer that you care about details. Noisy shoes can distract. Choose shoes that are comfortable, clean and quiet.
Tonight, clean and polish the shoes you plan to wear tomorrow. Check the heels and soles, and walk on a hard floor to test the noise.
Grooming: hair, nails and face
Grooming is the quiet base of a good look. Clean, tidy hair, neat nails and a fresh face tell the customer that you look after yourself, and so will look after their business. Do a quick check each morning.
Tomorrow morning, do a two-minute grooming check: hair, teeth, nails, skin and beard or shave. Fix anything that needs it.
Fit matters more than price
A cheap, well-fitting outfit looks better than an expensive one that does not fit. Sleeves too long, trousers that drag or a jacket that pulls all suggest carelessness. A small tailoring change can make a modest piece look excellent.
Try on your three most-worn work pieces in front of a mirror. Note any that are too long, too tight or too loose, and book a tailor for one.
Choose calm colours
Colours speak. Navy, grey, soft blue and green tend to feel calm, steady and trustworthy, while very bright reds, oranges and neon colours can feel loud. Add a touch of colour in a gentle shade.
For your next meeting, choose a calm base colour such as navy or grey, and add one soft accent in a shirt, scarf or tie.
Keep jewellery simple
Jewellery can be a pleasure, but in a trust-building meeting, less is more. Large, shiny or noisy pieces may distract or suggest that you are showing off. A simple watch, a ring or small earrings are enough.
Before your next meeting, remove any jewellery that is large, loud or noisy. Keep one or two simple pieces.
Carry a clean, simple bag
Your bag is part of your look. A clean, simple, well-kept bag in a quiet colour supports a calm impression, and a worn, stained or overstuffed bag can suggest that your work is like that too.
Look at your work bag today. Wipe the outside, repair any broken strap or zip, and decide whether it still suits your work.
Keep a spare shirt at work
Accidents happen: spilled coffee, a rainy walk, a hot commute. A spare shirt or top kept at work turns a small disaster into a minor event. It is one of the cheapest forms of insurance for your appearance.
Bring one clean, ironed spare shirt or top to work tomorrow, and keep it in a drawer or your car, with a stain remover pen.
Spot-check before every meeting
Thirty seconds before every meeting, do a spot-check. Look in a mirror, a window or your phone camera. Check your teeth, hair, collar, buttons and shoes, and fix anything that is wrong before you walk in.
Before your next meeting, take thirty seconds in a washroom or a mirror to check teeth, hair, collar, buttons and shoes.
Dress well when you work from home
Working from home does not mean working in pyjamas. Dressing properly helps your mind switch into work mode, and when a customer calls on video, you are ready. Neat, comfortable clothes are enough.
Tomorrow, dress for work even if you work at home. Wear a clean, neat top and trousers, and shoes if you can.
Dress for the phone call too
On a phone call, no one sees your clothes, yet they can hear them. When you are dressed and sitting up, your voice is clearer and more alert. Dress as if you were meeting in person.
Before an important phone call, put on a clean top and shoes, sit at a desk and stand up for the first sentence.
Dress when you are not the expert
When you are new or learning, it is tempting to hide behind formal clothes or to dress too casually to blend in. The best path is to dress neatly and simply, and to be honest about what you do not know.
At your next meeting where you are not the expert, dress neatly and simply, and say, ‘I am still learning this, and I will find out for you.’
Dress after a long journey
After a long journey, you may arrive tired and creased, yet the customer sees only how you arrive. A short reset of washing, changing, freshening up and breathing can turn a rough arrival into a calm one.
On your next trip, pack a change of top and a small kit, and plan ten minutes to freshen up before the meeting.
Dress when you are tired
When you are tired, it is easy to dress carelessly, but tiredness shows in the face, and careless clothes make it worse. Keep a simple plan for tired days: a favourite outfit that you know looks good, and a few easy touches.
Choose one ‘tired day outfit’ now: a favourite, comfortable, neat set you know looks good. Hang it where you can find it quickly.
Dress for a first meeting
A first meeting is your one chance to make a first impression. Dress one step above what you expect, in clothes you know fit well and feel good. Plan the whole outfit in advance, and do not experiment on the day.
For your next first meeting, plan the outfit two days ahead, try it on, and choose the clothes in which you feel best and most yourself.
Dress for a hard meeting
A hard meeting, such as a complaint, a price talk or bad news, calls for calm, serious dress. Quiet colours, neat lines and no distractions tell the customer that you take their concern seriously.
For your next hard meeting, choose a calm, neat outfit in quiet colours, and wear something that makes you feel steady.
Dress for a celebration
When a customer invites you to a celebration, dress with joy and respect. Look a little festive, but do not outshine the hosts, and follow any dress code. Your dress shows that you honour the occasion.
When you receive an invitation, read the dress code, and ask the host if unsure. Choose a festive but modest outfit, and bring a small, kind gift.
Dress with respect for modesty
Standards of modesty differ across people, faiths and cultures. In many places, covered arms, legs and shoulders show respect. If you are unsure, choose modest clothes, since you can always remove a layer.
Before meeting a new client, ask yourself whether your outfit would be comfortable in a place with modest customs. If not, add a layer.
Dress for your own confidence
After all the rules, there is one more: dress so that you feel confident. When you feel good in your clothes, you stand taller, speak more clearly and listen better. Choose clothes that suit you and respect the customer.
Choose one outfit that makes you feel confident and suitable for your work. Wear it for your next important meeting.
Never judge others by their dress
After forty tips on how to dress, there is one last rule: never judge others by their dress. A customer in old clothes may be the owner, and a person in a fine suit may be the junior. Treat every person with the same respect.
Today, greet every person with the same warmth, whatever they wear. Notice any urge to judge, and set it aside.
Easy things to say
When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many sales conversations.
“I wanted to dress for the site visit.”
“I always like to be tidy for meetings.”
“I am comfortable and ready.”
“What is the dress code?”
“Thanks for the tip.”
“See you soon.”
Your first week
One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.
Learn the dress norm of your top customer
Check one outfit for fit
Polish your shoes
Prepare a spare layer
Ask for the dress code
Review your appearance
Update your wardrobe plan
Further reading
- How to Win Friends and Influence People (Dale Carnegie)
- The Go-Giver (Bob Burg and John David Mann)
- The Trusted Advisor (David Maister and others)
The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.
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- Be Honest About What You Cannot Do
- Share Bad News Early
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- Think Long Term, Not This Month
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- Open Posture, Open Mind
- The Right Amount of Eye Contact
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- Mirror Without Mimicking
- Dress for the Customer You Serve
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- Read Signs of Discomfort
- Remember the Small Details
- Send the Unexpected Thank-You
- Check In Without Selling
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- Introduce People to Each Other
- Build a Simple Relationship System
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