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LESSON 06 · STOPPING OVERTHINKING

The Cost of Too Much Thinking

Thirty-two simple facts about the cost of too much thinking, and how to get your time and energy back.

Overthinking costs more than you think. You can get it all back.

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40 tips that really help

These ideas come from Chatter (Ethan Kross), Don’t Believe Everything You Think (Joseph Nguyen), The Untethered Soul (Michael Singer), and everyday practice. Pick one tip and try it today.

TIP 1

Overthinking costs more than you think

Hours spent looping are hours not spent living. Studies on rumination link it to lower mood, poorer sleep and difficulty making decisions. The cost isn’t only time; it’s energy, joy and clarity.

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Estimate your weekly loop time.

TIP 2

It costs time

If you loop 30 minutes a day, that’s 3.5 hours a week, about 180 hours a year. Imagine what else you could do with them.

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Do the math for yourself.

TIP 3

It costs energy

Mental loops are tiring, like running a car engine in neutral. You end the day exhausted without having done much.

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Notice your energy after a loop.

TIP 4

It costs sleep

Loops keep the mind alert at bedtime and cause night waking.

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Protect your wind-down.

TIP 5

It costs mood

Rumination is associated with low mood and anxiety in many studies.

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Track mood on loop days.

TIP 6

It costs decisions

Too many options and too much analysis can leave you stuck. Research on choice overload by Sheena Iyengar and Mark Lepper found that people given fewer options were often more likely to decide.

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Limit options to three.

TIP 7

It costs relationships

Being lost in thoughts makes you less present with people you love.

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Put your phone down and listen.

TIP 8

It costs creativity

A mind busy with loops has less space for new ideas.

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Free up space with a walk.

TIP 9

It costs health

Chronic stress from worry can affect blood pressure, digestion and immunity.

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Take care of your body.

TIP 10

It costs opportunities

Waiting for certainty can mean missing chances.

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Choose a deadline.

TIP 11

It costs confidence

Second-guessing everything wears down trust in yourself.

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Make one quick decision.

TIP 12

It costs money

Delays and endless comparison can cost more than a good-enough choice.

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Set a limit.

TIP 13

It costs work performance

Distracted thinking reduces focus and output.

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Use focus blocks.

TIP 14

It costs joy

Moments pass while you analyse them.

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Savour one now.

TIP 15

It costs memory

Anxiety can consume working memory, making everyday tasks harder.

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Write things down.

TIP 16

The benefits of stopping

Time, calm, presence, sleep, confidence and energy.

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List the ones you want most.

TIP 17

Count your loops for a week

Tally each time you notice one. Awareness alone often cuts them.

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Use a tally.

TIP 18

Track the minutes

Estimate daily minutes. Seeing the number motivates change.

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Record daily.

TIP 19

Compare before and after

After using a tool, rate your mood to see what helps.

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Test one tool.

TIP 20

Celebrate gains

Each ten minutes saved is a win.

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Mark the saving.

TIP 21

Scene: a commuter

Replace looping with a podcast or a walk. Gain 40 minutes a day.

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Pick one.

TIP 22

Scene: a student

Replace worry with a study schedule. Gain focus.

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Plan two blocks.

TIP 23

Scene: a parent

Replace guilt loops with a small act of presence.

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Play ten minutes.

TIP 24

Scene: a manager

Replace what-ifs with a decision rule.

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Write one.

TIP 25

Scene: a freelancer

Replace checking with set times.

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Set hours.

TIP 26

Scene: someone in recovery

Replace replays with support calls.

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Call a supporter.

TIP 27

Scene: an athlete

Replace mistake loops with drills.

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Practise.

TIP 28

Scene: a creative

Replace doubt loops with small drafts.

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Write 100 words.

TIP 29

Scene: someone newly retired

Replace idle looping with routines.

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Join an activity.

TIP 30

Scene: someone moving cities

Replace dread with lists and visits.

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Plan a visit.

TIP 31

Make a "better use" list

Write 10 things you’d rather do with extra time.

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Write them.

TIP 32

Make a loop budget

Allow yourself 15 minutes a day for reflection. Beyond that, move.

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Set it.

TIP 33

Make a swap list

For each trigger, pick a swap activity.

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List swaps.

TIP 34

Make peace with some thinking

Some thinking is useful. Aim for less, not zero.

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Be realistic.

TIP 35

Talk about the cost

Share your numbers with a friend. It strengthens your resolve.

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Tell someone.

TIP 36

Use motivation

Pick a goal you want time for.

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Write it.

TIP 37

Use rewards

Treat yourself when you cut loops.

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Plan rewards.

TIP 38

Use patience

Habits shift slowly.

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Keep trying.

TIP 39

Seek help

A therapist can offer tools for rumination.

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Consider it.

TIP 40

Close with value

Say, “My time and mind are valuable.”

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Write it.

Easy things to say

When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many everyday situations.

NOTICE

“I am using lots of energy on this.”

COUNT

“How much time did I lose today?”

CHOOSE

“I will spend that time on something good.”

REST

“I need a break from thinking.”

ACT

“I will do one small thing now.”

“I feel free and light.”

Your first week

One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.

DAY 1
Count the cost

DAY 2
Notice your energy

DAY 3
Choose a limit

DAY 4
Take small action

DAY 5
Rest your mind

DAY 6
Enjoy the present

DAY 7
Review each week

More lessons in “Stopping Overthinking”

Keep going. Small steps every day make a big change.

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