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LESSON 38 · OVERCOMING NERVOUSNESS

Keep a Courage Log

Thirty easy ways to keep a courage log, so you see proof that you are braver than you think.

Write your wins. Proof builds courage.

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40 tips that really help

These ideas come from Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway (Susan Jeffers), The Upside of Stress (Kelly McGonigal), The 5 Second Rule (Mel Robbins), and everyday practice. Pick one tip and try it today.

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Write your wins

A courage log is a simple record of brave things you have done, however small. It gives your mind evidence to counter “I can’t”.

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Start a note called “Brave things”.

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Why it works

Researchers Teresa Amabile and Steven Kramer found that recording small wins boosts motivation and mood at work. Seeing progress is a strong motivator in every part of life.

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Record one small win today.

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Keep it simple

One line per entry is enough: date, what you did and how it felt. Simple logs get kept.

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Use the format: date, brave act, feeling.

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Log the small things

Saying hello to a stranger, making a call or speaking up for ten seconds all count. Small steps are the bricks of confidence.

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Log three small acts this week.

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Log the big things

A big talk, a hard conversation or a new job deserve a full entry. Describe how you prepared and what happened.

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Write a paragraph for a major step.

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Log the fear and the outcome

Note your predicted fear and what actually happened. The gap shows how often fear overestimates.

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Add “I feared…” and “What happened…” to each entry.

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Rate your fear

Give each situation a number from one to ten before and after. Over time, you will see numbers falling.

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Write two scores per entry.

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Log what helped

Add one line about the tool you used: breathing, a phrase, a friend. Over time you will see what works best for you.

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Add “What helped:” to your log.

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Use a notebook

A dedicated notebook feels special and makes the log a keepsake. Many people enjoy handwriting.

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Pick a small notebook.

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Use your phone

A notes app is always at hand. Choose what you will actually use.

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Create a pinned note.

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Make it a ritual

Write your log at the same time each day, such as after dinner. A routine makes it stick.

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Pick a daily time.

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Add dates

Dates let you see your growth over weeks and months. Look back at the first page after a while.

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Date every entry.

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Include feelings

Write how you felt before, during and after. Naming feelings builds emotional skill.

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Add three feeling words.

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Include pride

Write one sentence about what you are proud of. Pride is fuel.

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Finish: “I am proud that I…”

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Include thanks

Note who helped you and thank them. Gratitude strengthens connections.

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Send one thank-you based on your log.

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Include lessons

Write one thing you learned. Lessons turn experiences into skills.

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Write “Next time I will…”

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Include setbacks too

Record tough days honestly. Seeing that you keep going is as valuable as seeing wins.

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Write one setback and one thing you did next.

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Reread on hard days

When you doubt yourself, read your log. It is your own evidence that you are braver than you feel.

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Read three entries when you wobble.

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Read it before big events

A few minutes with your log reminds you that you have done hard things. It steadies you.

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Read your best entry before your next challenge.

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Share a win

Telling a friend about an entry amplifies it. Friends can cheer you on.

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Share one entry.

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Use the log for goals

Set a target, such as three brave acts a week, and tick them off. Targets keep you moving.

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Set a weekly target.

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Create a ladder

List fears from easy to hard, then log each rung you climb. A visible ladder shows progress.

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Draw a ladder on one page.

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Add photos or tickets

A photo of a venue or a ticket stub makes memories vivid. Visual reminders help.

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Stick one memento in.

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Add quotes

Copy lines that inspire you. A log can hold your favourite encouragement.

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Add one quote you love.

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Include daily courage

Even simple acts, such as getting up on a hard day, count. Courage is wider than public acts.

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Log one quiet act of courage.

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Include kindness

Note moments when you were kind despite nerves. Kind acts are brave.

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Write one kind act.

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Include boundaries

Saying no kindly is a courageous act. Record it.

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Log a time you set a limit.

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Include rest

Taking rest when needed is brave in a busy world. Note it.

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Log a restful choice.

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Do monthly reviews

At month end, read your entries and pick three highlights. Celebrate.

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Put a monthly review in your calendar.

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Do yearly reviews

At year end, read the whole log. It will likely amaze you.

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Read your log every January.

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Count your entries

A running total is motivating. “Fifty brave acts” feels powerful.

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Add a count at the top of your page.

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Make a courage jar

Write wins on slips of paper and drop them in a jar. Pulling one out when low is a treat.

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Start a jar.

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Celebrate milestones

Mark 10, 50 and 100 entries with a treat. Milestones give joy.

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Plan a reward for entry 25.

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Use it with a therapist or coach

If you work with someone, your log gives rich material. They will appreciate it.

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Share entries in a session.

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Teach children

Children can keep a “brave book” with drawings. It builds resilience early.

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Try a brave book with a child.

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Be honest

Write what really happened. Honest logs are more useful.

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Keep entries truthful.

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Be kind in your tone

Write as you would to a friend. Kind words build kindness inside.

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Re-read an entry kindly.

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Keep going

Even if you miss days, resume. A log is yours to use as you wish.

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Start again today.

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See yourself clearly

A courage log shows you as you are: someone who keeps trying. Be proud of that person.

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Say, “I am someone who tries.”

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Look for patterns in what scares you

After a month, read your log for themes: meetings, strangers, phone calls. Patterns show where to practise next and what is already getting easier.

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Highlight the three situations that appear most often.

Easy things to say

When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many everyday situations.

NOTE

“Today I did something brave.”

DETAIL

“Here is what I did.”

FEEL

“I felt nervous but proud.”

LEARN

“I learned this.”

PLAN

“Next I will try this.”

CLOSE

“Look how far I have come.”

Your first week

One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.

DAY 1
Get a notebook

DAY 2
Write the date

DAY 3
Write the brave act

DAY 4
Write the feeling

DAY 5
Write the lesson

DAY 6
Reread weekly

DAY 7
Celebrate

Further reading

• Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway (Susan Jeffers)
• The Upside of Stress (Kelly McGonigal)
• The 5 Second Rule (Mel Robbins)

The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.

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