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Calm the Butterflies. Keep the Courage.

40 lessons · 6 themes · practical tips in every lesson

Handle nerves before calls, talks, interviews and big moments with simple, proven tools.

THEME 1 · 7 LESSONS

Understand Your Nerves

Learn what is happening in your body and why.

Nerves Are Energy in Disguise
LESSON 01

Nerves Are Energy in Disguise

What Happens in Your Body When You Panic
LESSON 02

What Happens in Your Body When You Panic

Fear Rises, Peaks and Falls
LESSON 03

Fear Rises, Peaks and Falls

Everyone Gets Nervous, Even the Best
LESSON 04

Everyone Gets Nervous, Even the Best

Name Your Nerve Triggers
LESSON 05

Name Your Nerve Triggers

Nerves vs Real Danger
LESSON 06

Nerves vs Real Danger

Why Avoiding Makes It Worse
LESSON 07

Why Avoiding Makes It Worse

THEME 2 · 7 LESSONS

Calm Your Body Fast

Tools that work in under two minutes.

The Long-Exhale Breath
LESSON 08

The Long-Exhale Breath

Five Slow Breaths Before Anything
LESSON 09

Five Slow Breaths Before Anything

Shake It Out: Release Tension
LESSON 10

Shake It Out: Release Tension

Cool Water, Calm Mind
LESSON 11

Cool Water, Calm Mind

Ground Yourself With Your Five Senses
LESSON 12

Ground Yourself With Your Five Senses

Relax Your Jaw and Shoulders
LESSON 13

Relax Your Jaw and Shoulders

The Sixty-Second Reset
LESSON 14

The Sixty-Second Reset

THEME 3 · 7 LESSONS

Calm Your Mind

Quiet the what-ifs that fuel nerves.

Say "I Am Excited" Instead of "I Am Nervous"
LESSON 15

Say "I Am Excited" Instead of "I Am Nervous"

Replace What-If With What-Then
LESSON 16

Replace What-If With What-Then

The Worst-Case, Likely-Case Exercise
LESSON 17

The Worst-Case, Likely-Case Exercise

Stop Predicting Failure
LESSON 18

Stop Predicting Failure

A Calm Phrase to Repeat
LESSON 19

A Calm Phrase to Repeat

Picture It Going Well
LESSON 20

Picture It Going Well

Plan for the Slip, Then Let It Go
LESSON 21

Plan for the Slip, Then Let It Go

THEME 4 · 7 LESSONS

Prepare Without Over-Preparing

Get ready in a way that helps.

Write Your First Sentence Down
LESSON 22

Write Your First Sentence Down

Practise Out Loud, Not in Your Head
LESSON 23

Practise Out Loud, Not in Your Head

The Ten-Minute Pre-Event Ritual
LESSON 24

The Ten-Minute Pre-Event Ritual

Sleep, Water and Food Before Big Days
LESSON 25

Sleep, Water and Food Before Big Days

Check Your Space and Tools
LESSON 26

Check Your Space and Tools

LESSON 27

Use a Cue Card, Not a Script

Arrive Early and Settle In
LESSON 28

Arrive Early and Settle In

THEME 5 · 6 LESSONS

Beat Specific Nerve Moments

Help for the situations that scare people most.

Before an Important Phone Call
LESSON 29

Before an Important Phone Call

Before a Job Interview
LESSON 30

Before a Job Interview

Before a Presentation
LESSON 31

Before a Presentation

Before Meeting Someone New
LESSON 32

Before Meeting Someone New

Before a Hard Conversation
LESSON 33

Before a Hard Conversation

Before Speaking in a Meeting
LESSON 34

Before Speaking in a Meeting

THEME 6 · 6 LESSONS

Build Lasting Calm

Make steadiness your normal.

Daily Habits That Lower Anxiety
LESSON 35

Daily Habits That Lower Anxiety

Move Your Body to Burn Off Nerves
LESSON 36

Move Your Body to Burn Off Nerves

Limit Caffeine and Doom-Scrolling
LESSON 37

Limit Caffeine and Doom-Scrolling

Keep a Courage Log
LESSON 38

Keep a Courage Log

Reward Yourself for Facing Fear
LESSON 39

Reward Yourself for Facing Fear

When to Ask for Professional Help
LESSON 40

When to Ask for Professional Help

Ideas in this topic come from

  • Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway (Susan Jeffers)
  • The Upside of Stress (Kelly McGonigal)
  • The 5 Second Rule (Mel Robbins)
  • Breath (James Nestor)
  • The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook (Edmund Bourne)

Tips are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.

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