Ask Small Questions That Say Yes
Practical ways to ask small questions that lead to yes, building agreement step by step.
Small yeses build big ones. Ask only questions you believe in.
10 tips that really help
These ideas come from Influence (Robert Cialdini), Pre-Suasion (Robert Cialdini), Thinking, Fast and Slow (Daniel Kahneman), and everyday practice. The first six help the most. Pick one and try it today.
Small questions create momentum
Easy questions that invite agreement make the larger decision feel natural.
Plan a sequence.
Ask questions they will say yes to
Simple truths such as you want your customers to be happy start agreement.
Keep them honest.
Use micro-commitments
Asking would you like to see an example? is a small yes.
Offer small steps.
Check understanding
Does that make sense? invites a yes and clarity.
Use often.
Link yeses to the goal
Each small agreement should move toward a real benefit.
Plan the path.
Avoid trick questions
Manipulation is noticed and resented.
Be sincere.
Listen to hesitations
If a small question gets a no, explore why.
Ask kindly.
Summarise agreements
Recap what they agreed to before asking for the next step.
Say so we agree.
End with a natural next step
The final ask feels easy after earlier yeses.
Propose it.
Momentum helps
Easy agreements make bigger ones easier.
Plan them.
Easy things to say
When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many sales conversations.
“It is important to save time, right?”
“And you want fewer errors, correct?”
“Then a simpler system could help.”
“Would you like to see how?”
“Does that sound fair?”
“Thank you.”
Your first week
One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.
Write three easy yes questions
Make them honest
Ask them naturally
Link to your offer
Do not trick
Watch their comfort
Review
Further reading
- Influence (Robert Cialdini)
- Pre-Suasion (Robert Cialdini)
- Thinking, Fast and Slow (Daniel Kahneman)
The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.
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