Adapt Your Style in Minutes
Practical ways to adapt your style in minutes, reading the buyer and shifting gently to suit them.
Flexibility wins. Read, then adjust.
10 tips that really help
These ideas come from Influence (Robert Cialdini), Pre-Suasion (Robert Cialdini), Thinking, Fast and Slow (Daniel Kahneman), and everyday practice. The first six help the most. Pick one and try it today.
Adapting is a skill you can learn
Reading a buyer within minutes lets you adjust your style and be far more effective.
Practise observing.
Notice pace and level of detail
Fast and brief or slow and detailed tells you how to speak.
Watch closely.
Listen for key words
Their vocabulary reveals priorities and preferences.
Take notes.
Ask a diagnostic question
How do you usually like to decide? tells you what they need from you.
Use it early.
Switch formats when needed
Offer data for analytical buyers and stories for relational ones.
Be ready with both.
Check their reaction
Their face and words tell you whether the style is working.
Ask if it suits them.
Avoid stereotypes
Treat each person as unique and let evidence guide you.
Stay open.
Reflect after each call
What worked and what would you change?
Write two lines.
Keep learning about behaviour
Reading about people improves your instincts.
Read monthly.
People differ
Pace and detail preferences vary.
Notice.
Easy things to say
When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many sales conversations.
“I sense you prefer a quick overview.”
“Let me skip to the summary.”
“Would you like detail or the headline?”
“I will keep it short.”
“Is this pace right?”
“Thank you.”
Your first week
One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.
Learn four buyer styles
Spot clues in the first minutes
Adjust pace
Adjust detail
Adjust tone
Ask directly if unsure
Review
Further reading
- Influence (Robert Cialdini)
- Pre-Suasion (Robert Cialdini)
- Thinking, Fast and Slow (Daniel Kahneman)
The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.
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- Never Fake Scarcity
- Use Social Proof Honestly
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- Cut the Number of Options
- Show the Next Step Plainly
- Reduce Risk With Guarantees
- Offer a Small First Step
- Remove Hidden Hassles
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- Adapt Your Style in Minutes
