Sales Skills / Why People Buy / Lesson 08

LESSON 08 · WHY PEOPLE BUY

People Buy With Feelings, Justify With Facts

Practical ways to remember that people buy with feelings and justify with facts, so you speak to both.

Emotion starts, logic finishes. Serve both.

10 tipsEasy things to say7-day plan

10 tips that really help

These ideas come from Influence (Robert Cialdini), Pre-Suasion (Robert Cialdini), Thinking, Fast and Slow (Daniel Kahneman), and everyday practice. The first six help the most. Pick one and try it today.

TIP 1

Emotion starts the decision

People feel first and then look for facts to support a choice they already lean toward.

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Connect with feeling first.

TIP 2

Find the emotion behind the need

Worry, pride, relief or excitement often drives the purchase more than features.

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Ask how they feel about it.

TIP 3

Tell stories that stir feeling

A brief story about a customer’s relief or joy touches people more than data alone.

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Prepare one.

TIP 4

Then give the facts to justify

Numbers and details let the customer feel comfortable explaining their choice to others.

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Prepare a short proof sheet.

TIP 5

Respect both sides

Some buyers lean toward logic, others toward feeling, so offer both.

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Watch their reactions.

TIP 6

Do not manipulate emotions

Use feelings to help the customer see real value, not to create fear or guilt.

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Stay honest.

TIP 7

Match tone to their mood

A calm, positive tone supports good decisions.

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Adapt your energy.

TIP 8

Use images and examples

Visuals help people feel what the result looks like.

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Show the outcome.

TIP 9

Give permission to feel good about it

Confirm that their choice is sensible and wise.

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Say that makes sense.

TIP 10

Follow up on the feeling

Later, remind them of the benefit they felt.

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Ask how it is going.

Easy things to say

When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many sales conversations.

FEEL

“How would it feel to have your Fridays back?”

FACT

“And here are the numbers that support it.”

STORY

“Let me tell you what happened for another owner.”

CHECK

“Does that match what you hope for?”

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“Both the feeling and the facts matter.”

THANKS

“Thank you.”

Your first week

One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.

DAY 1
Start with the feeling

DAY 2
Add the facts

DAY 3
Tell a story

DAY 4
Ask about hopes

DAY 5
Provide proof

DAY 6
Check both

DAY 7
Review your pitch

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Keep going. Small steps every day make a big change.

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