Your First 90 Seconds of Courage
Forty steps to find your courage in the first minutes of a call or meeting, then keep it going.
The first 90 seconds are the hardest. After that, momentum helps you.
37 tips that really help
These ideas come from The Psychology of Selling (Brian Tracy), Secrets of Closing the Sale (Zig Ziglar), To Sell Is Human (Daniel Pink), and everyday practice. The first six help the most. Pick one and try it today.
Know the shape of fear
Fear has a shape. It starts small, grows fast, reaches a peak, and then it falls. Most people feel the worst of it in the first moments before they act. If you know this shape, you stop being afraid of the fear itself.
Step one. Before your next call, say to yourself, this is the peak, and it will fall. Step two. Breathe out slowly.
Write your opening
A good opening is like a bridge. It takes you from silence to conversation. If you write it down before the call, your mind doesn't have to build it in the heat of the moment. A written opening is a safety net.
Step one. Write your name, your reason and one question. Step two. Cut it to thirty seconds.
Memorise the first line
The first line is the hardest. If you know it by heart, you can say it even when your mind goes blank. After the first line, the rest of the call often flows by itself. That's why memorising one line is worth the effort.
Step one. Choose one first line, under twenty words. Step two. Say it ten times aloud.
Say it aloud
Words in your head aren't the same as words in your mouth. Your mouth needs practice, too. When you say your lines aloud, you find out what sounds natural and what sounds strange. It's the cheapest rehearsal there's.
Step one. Choose two lines you need most. Step two. Say each aloud five times.
Warm up your voice
Your voice is a muscle. If you speak without warming it up, it may sound thin, shaky or flat. A one-minute warm-up makes it clear, warm and steady. Singers and actors do this every day, and so can you.
Step one. Hum gently for twenty seconds. Step two. Say your opening line slowly, three times.
Stand up
Standing up changes how you sound. Your lungs have more room, your voice is stronger, and your mind feels more alert. Many experienced sellers stand for important calls. It's one of the simplest tricks, and it costs nothing.
Step one. Before your next call, stand up. Step two. Place your feet apart and relax your shoulders.
Smile first
A smile before you speak changes your face, your voice and your mood. Your first words come out warmer. The other person feels welcome before you even finish your sentence. It takes three seconds. This tip is about smiling first, before the first word.
Step one. Before your next call, think of something that makes you smile. Step two. Let your face relax into a gentle smile.
Breathe out slowly
When you're nervous, you breathe in too much and too fast. A long, slow breath out tells your body that you're safe. In ten seconds, your heart starts to slow down. It's the fastest calm-down tool you have.
Step one. Breathe in for four counts through the nose. Step two. Breathe out for six counts through the mouth.
Count down
A countdown is a simple trick. Five, four, three, two, one, go. It stops you from thinking too long and gets you moving. The mind needs a clear signal, and a countdown gives it one. It works for dialling a number, standing up or saying the first word.
Step one. Choose one small action. Step two. Count down from five.
Make the first call the easiest
Your first call doesn't need to be the hardest one. Choose a friendly person for your first call of the day. A warm customer, a past client or a colleague. You build courage with an easy win. Then the harder calls feel easier.
Step one. Sort your list by how friendly each person is. Step two. Put the friendliest first.
Use a ritual
A ritual is a small set of actions that you repeat before something important. Athletes have them. Musicians have them. A short ritual before a call tells your mind, now it's time, and it moves you from worry to action. It doesn't need to be fancy.
Step one. Choose three simple actions, like water, breath and a calm sentence. Step two. Do them in the same order.
Start small
Big steps feel scary. Small steps feel safe. If you want courage, make your first step tiny. Say one sentence. Send one message. Make one call. Then take the next small step. Courage grows one small step at a time.
Step one. Choose one tiny action. Step two. Do it within the next hour.
Focus on the other person
When you feel nervous, you think about yourself. Do I sound okay? Will they like me? One of the best ways to calm down is to turn your attention to the other person. What do they need? How are they feeling?
Step one. Before a call, write two things you want to learn about the person. Step two. Start with one of them.
Ask a question early
If you ask a question early, the pressure moves from you to the other person. You don't need to talk for a long time. You only need to ask, and then listen. A good early question also shows interest.
Step one. Write one open question that starts with what or how. Step two. Ask it within the first thirty seconds.
Use their name
People love to hear their own name. When you use it, you show respect and attention. It also helps you feel more connected, because you're talking to a person, not to a number. A name is the quickest way to warm up a conversation.
Step one. Write the person's name at the top of your notes. Step two. Say it in the first thirty seconds.
Expect small talk
Many calls start with a little small talk. How are you? Nice weather. Busy day? If you expect it, you won't be surprised. You can answer in a friendly way, and then move on. Small talk is a bridge, not a test.
Step one. Prepare a friendly reply and a simple question. Step two. Use them in your next call.
Accept that nerves are normal
Everyone feels nervous before something important. Experienced sellers, too. The difference is that they accept it. They don't fight the feeling. They let it be there, and they begin anyway. Acceptance takes away half the fear. This tip is about making peace with your nerves.
Step one. Before a call, say, I notice I'm nervous, and that's okay. Step two. Breathe out slowly.
Reframe nerves as energy
Nerves and excitement feel almost the same in the body. The heart beats faster. The hands feel warm or cold. The stomach flutters. The only difference is the story you tell. If you say, I'm excited, your mind can use that energy.
Step one. Notice your nerves. Step two. Say out loud, I'm excited.
Use a cue card
A cue card is a small card with your key points. It keeps you steady if your mind goes blank. You don't read it word for word. You glance at it, and you find your place. It's like a handrail on a staircase.
Step one. Take a small card. Step two. Write four key words, large and clear.
Keep your hands busy
Nervous energy needs somewhere to go. If your hands have nothing to do, they may shake, fidget or touch your face. Give them a simple job, like holding a pen, or resting calmly on the desk. Calm hands help you feel calm inside.
Step one. Choose a small object, like a pen. Step two. Hold it lightly during your next call.
Avoid caffeine overload
Too much coffee can make your heart race, your hands shake and your mind jump. If you're already nervous, caffeine can turn a small worry into a big one. A little is fine. A lot isn't. On important days, be gentle with your cup.
Step one. Count your cups tomorrow. Step two. Limit yourself to one or two before important calls.
Have water ready
A glass of water is a simple friend. A dry mouth is common when we're nervous. Sipping water helps you speak clearly. It also gives you a natural pause when you need one. Keep it within reach, and use it. This tip is about having water ready.
Step one. Fill a bottle each morning. Step two. Place it near your phone.
Check your environment
Your surroundings affect your mood. A noisy room, a messy desk or a bad phone line can make you feel stressed before you start. A few minutes of preparation can remove many small worries. Check your environment before you begin.
Step one. Before your next call, clear your desk. Step two. Close extra tabs and silence your phone.
Plan for a mistake
Everyone makes mistakes. You may forget a name, lose your place or say the wrong number. If you plan for it, the mistake feels smaller. You already know what to do. A plan turns a scary event into a small bump.
Step one. Write down three possible slips. Step two. Write a calm line for each.
Laugh at a slip
When you slip, you can laugh. A small, kind laugh tells the other person, I'm human, and it's okay. Laughter breaks tension and makes people like you more. It's one of the quickest ways to recover. This tip is about laughing at yourself, gently.
Step one. Choose a light phrase for slips. Step two. Smile when you use it.
Remember the purpose
When fear is loud, remember why you're doing this. You aren't just making a call. You're trying to help someone solve a problem. A clear purpose can make fear feel smaller. Purpose is stronger than panic. This tip is about connecting each call to a bigger reason.
Step one. Write your purpose in one sentence. Step two. Put it where you can see it.
Think of one person you help
Think of one real person you have helped. Maybe a customer, a friend or a colleague. Picture their face. Remember what they said. That memory can give you strength when you feel afraid. It reminds you that your work matters to real people.
Step one. Choose one person you helped. Step two. Write what changed for them.
Use small wins
A small win is anything that moves you forward. A call you made. A question you asked. A calm breath. When you notice small wins, your confidence grows. When you ignore them, it shrinks. Collect them, like small coins.
Step one. Each evening, write three small wins. Step two. Include effort, like making a call.
Record your first minutes
If you record your first minutes of a call, you can listen and learn. You hear your voice, your pace and your words. It's like a mirror for your ears. You may be surprised by how good you sound. Or you may find one small thing to improve.
Step one. Record one minute of yourself on your phone. Step two. Listen for pace, warmth and filler words.
Practise with a friend
A friend is the safest place to practise. They won't judge you, and they will tell you the truth kindly. You can try different words, different tones and different openings. Every practice makes the real call easier. A few minutes with a friend is worth an hour alone.
Step one. Choose a friend and a short script. Step two. Practise for five minutes.
Join a group
Courage grows in company. When you join a group of people who share your goals, you learn faster, and you feel less alone. It might be a sales club, a local business group or an online community. Seeing others face the same fears makes yours feel smaller.
Step one. Find one group, online or local. Step two. Attend one meeting.
Ask a mentor
A mentor is someone who has walked the path before you. They know the fears, the mistakes and the shortcuts. A short chat with a mentor can save you months of struggle. You don't need a formal arrangement. You only need to ask.
Step one. Choose one person you admire. Step two. Send a short, kind message asking for twenty minutes.
Be curious
Curiosity and fear can't easily live in the same mind at the same moment. When you're truly curious about the person you're talking to, you stop worrying about yourself. Curiosity turns a scary call into a small adventure. This tip is about using curiosity to calm your nerves.
Step one. Before a call, write one thing you wonder about the person. Step two. Ask it early.
Use positive self-talk
The words you say to yourself shape your mood. If you say, I'll mess this up, your body tightens. If you say, I'm prepared, and I can do this, your body relaxes. Positive self-talk isn't about lying. It's about choosing helpful, true words.
Step one. Catch one harsh thought. Step two. Rewrite it as a coach would.
Do not wait for the perfect moment
The perfect moment never comes. There is always one more thing to prepare, one more fear to calm. If you wait until you feel completely ready, you may wait forever. Good enough, today, is better than perfect, never. This tip is about starting before you feel perfectly ready.
Step one. Choose one action you've been putting off. Step two. Make it small.
Review how it went
After a call, take two minutes to review. What went well? What would you try next time? This habit turns every call into a lesson. Without it, you repeat the same mistakes. A kind review is the secret of fast learning.
Step one. After each call, take two minutes. Step two. Write one win and one idea.
You are braver than you think
You have read many ways to build courage in your first ninety seconds. Now remember the most important one: you're braver than you think. You have faced fears before. You have done hard things. You can do this. Courage isn't the absence of fear. It's action with fear.
Step one. Write three brave things you've done. Step two. Put the list where you can see it.
Easy things to say
When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many sales conversations.
“Hi, this is Sam. Thanks for taking my call.”
“I am glad to be here.”
“Let me ask you a quick question.”
“Take your time. I am happy to listen.”
“I am a little nervous, and I am excited too.”
“I appreciate you giving me time.”
Your first week
One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.
Write your opening line
Say it out loud five times
Make one call right away
Start one conversation with a stranger
Use a breathing reset
Reward yourself after the first minute
Repeat on three calls
Further reading
- The Psychology of Selling (Brian Tracy)
- Secrets of Closing the Sale (Zig Ziglar)
- To Sell Is Human (Daniel Pink)
The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.
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- You Are Already a Salesperson
- Throw Away the Pushy Salesman Picture
- Believe in What You Sell
- Silence Your Inner Critic
- Your First 90 Seconds of Courage
- Borrow Confidence You Do Not Feel Yet
- Celebrate the Small Win Every Day
- Why "No" Is Not About You
- The Rejection Reset in 60 Seconds
- Turn Every No Into a Lesson
- Ask for Feedback Without Fear
- The Numbers Game Made Simple
- Bounce Back After a Bad Call
- Why Great Sellers Hear Thousands of Noes
- Breathe Away Pre-Call Panic
- Your Pre-Meeting Ritual
- Stand Like Someone Worth Hearing
- The Power Pose Myth and What Really Helps
- Sound Calm When You Feel Shaky
- What to Do When Your Mind Goes Blank
- Speak Slower, Sell Better
- Sell to Serve, Not to Impress
- The Giver's Edge
- See Your Customer as a Real Person
- Your Job Is to Solve, Not to Push
- Be Proud of the Value You Bring
- Lead With Honesty Every Time
- The Quiet Power of Integrity
- Start Your Day Like a Pro
- Set Goals You Can Actually Hit
- The Two-Minute Daily Review
- Read, Listen, Learn: 15 Minutes a Day
- Find a Mentor Who Pushes You
- Say Your Wins Out Loud
- Survive Your First Sales Slump
- Protect Your Energy Like Money
- When Sales Are Slow, Do This
- Stay Hopeful in a Long Sales Cycle
- Turn Pressure Into Focus
- Become the Seller You Admire
