LESSON 23 · THE CONFIDENT SELLER
The Giver's Edge
Forty ways to put generosity to work, with ideas from The Go-Giver, Influence and everyday sales.
Giving first builds lasting trust. Generosity is a practical strategy.
22 tipsEasy things to say7-day plan
22 tips that really help
These ideas come from The Psychology of Selling (Brian Tracy), Secrets of Closing the Sale (Zig Ziglar), To Sell Is Human (Daniel Pink), and everyday practice. The first six help the most. Pick one and try it today.
TIP 1
Give first
Bob Burg and John David Mann argue in The Go-Giver that value given freely tends to come back as trust and business.
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Give one useful thing today with no strings.
TIP 2
Reciprocity is human
Robert Cialdini describes how people tend to return favours. Use this honestly and kindly.
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Notice when someone helps you and how you feel.
TIP 3
Give real value
A useful gift beats a gimmick.
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Choose something that truly helps.
TIP 4
Share your knowledge
A short guide or tip shows expertise and care.
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Write a one-page tip sheet.
TIP 5
Give your time
Ten minutes of help can mean a lot.
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Offer a short helpful call.
TIP 6
Make introductions
Connecting two people is a lasting gift.
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Introduce two contacts by email.
TIP 7
Give kind feedback
Help them see something useful.
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Offer one idea gently.
TIP 8
Offer a small sample
Let them try before they commit.
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Plan one low-risk sample.
TIP 9
Offer a quick review
A short audit shows how you think.
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Offer a ten-minute review.
TIP 10
Share a template
Save them time with a checklist.
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Share one template.
TIP 11
Give early
Before the sale, not after.
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Send value before your next meeting.
TIP 12
Be consistent
Small and regular beats big and rare.
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Plan one weekly gift.
TIP 13
Give publicly
Share tips where others can benefit.
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Post one tip online.
TIP 14
Give privately
A personal note is powerful.
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Write a short card.
TIP 15
Give referrals
Send business to people you trust.
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Recommend one person today.
TIP 16
Give honest advice
Even if it costs a sale today.
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Tell the truth kindly.
TIP 17
Give full attention
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Put your phone away.
TIP 18
Receive well
Accepting help is also a gift.
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Say “Thank you” simply.
TIP 19
Set healthy limits
Giving is not being used.
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Decide what you will give free.
TIP 20
Give to the right people
Choose where to invest your time.
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Focus on good fits.
TIP 21
Give joy
A smile and humour lift others.
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Bring a light moment.
TIP 22
Give today
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Do one generous thing before day end.
Easy things to say
When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many sales conversations.
OFFER
“I put together a short guide for you.”
SHARE
“Here is a tip that may help.”
CONNECT
“I know someone you should meet.”
ASK
“What would help you most this month?”
NEXT
“If it helps, I can go further.”
Your first week
One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.
DAY 2
Make one introduction
DAY 3
Share a helpful article
DAY 7
Reflect on what came back
Further reading
- The Psychology of Selling (Brian Tracy)
- Secrets of Closing the Sale (Zig Ziglar)
- To Sell Is Human (Daniel Pink)
The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.
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