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LESSON 40 · HOW TO MEET NEW PEOPLE

Your Meeting-People Plan

Twelve steps to build your own plan for meeting people, one that fits your life and your pace.

A plan turns wishes into action. Make it small, clear and yours.

32 tipsEasy things to say7-day plan

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32 tips that really help

These ideas come from Platonic (Marisa Franco), Never Eat Alone (Keith Ferrazzi), How to Talk to Anyone (Leil Lowndes), and everyday practice. Pick one tip and try it today.

TIP 1

Start with goals

Decide what you want, for example two new friends in six months. A clear goal gives your plan direction.

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Write three goals.

TIP 2

Choose your places

Pick two weekly places and one monthly event where you can meet people. Repetition builds familiarity.

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List your places.

TIP 3

Set your habits

One hello a day and one invitation a week is a realistic start. Small habits are easy to keep.

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Write your two habits.

TIP 4

Put them in the calendar

What is scheduled gets done, so add your events now. A visible plan is a kept plan.

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Add all events to your phone.

TIP 5

Prepare small tools

A few opening lines and questions calm your nerves. Keep them in a note.

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Write three lines.

TIP 6

Plan for nerves

Decide what you will do if you feel anxious, such as breathe, get a drink or step outside. A plan lowers fear.

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Write your calming steps.

TIP 7

Tell a friend

Sharing your plan creates gentle accountability. Ask them to check in with you.

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Share your plan with one friend.

TIP 8

Track weekly

A short log shows what works and what you enjoy. Review it on Sundays.

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Keep a simple note.

TIP 9

Review monthly

Adjust places and habits to fit what you learned. Flexibility keeps you moving.

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Book a monthly review.

TIP 10

Celebrate milestones

Mark your first new friend, first invitation and first plan. Celebrations keep motivation high.

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Plan a small celebration.

TIP 11

Script: telling friends your plan

Say I am working on meeting more people this year, any ideas? Friends often have helpful suggestions.

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Say it to two friends.

TIP 12

Script: inviting someone to your event

I am going to a class on Thursday, would you like to come? It is easy to accept.

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Invite one.

TIP 13

Script: saying yes to an invitation

Yes, I would love to come. Thank you for thinking of me. A quick yes feels warm.

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Say yes next time.

TIP 14

Mistake: making the plan too big

A plan with ten goals fails. Choose three and do them well.

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Cut your plan.

TIP 15

Mistake: never reviewing

Without review, you will not know what works. Check monthly.

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Set a reminder.

TIP 16

If your plan is not working

Change one thing, such as the place or time. Experiment.

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Change one.

TIP 17

If you lose motivation

Re-read your reasons and reduce the goal. Small steps keep you going.

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Shrink it.

TIP 18

If you meet someone you like

Suggest a plan within a week. Momentum matters.

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Plan.

TIP 19

Drill: a ninety-day plan

Write a plan for three months with monthly goals. It gives direction.

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Write one.

TIP 20

Drill: a weekly rhythm

Plan three social slots a week. Repeating them builds habit.

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Add three.

TIP 21

Drill: a monthly review

Spend ten minutes at month end. Note what to keep and what to drop.

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Book it.

TIP 22

Choose three anchors

One weekly class, one monthly event and one daily hello. Anchors give structure.

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Pick them.

TIP 23

Plan your first week

Make the first week easy so you get a win. Choose small tasks.

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Write them.

TIP 24

Write your reasons

Why do you want friends? Reasons motivate. Keep them visible.

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Write three.

TIP 25

Set a budget

Decide how much time and money you will spend. Realistic plans last.

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Write it.

TIP 26

Prepare for nerves

Decide what you will do if you feel anxious. Having a plan helps.

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Write it.

TIP 27

Create a go-to list of lines

Keep openers, questions and exit lines in a note. Calm nerves.

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Make the list.

TIP 28

Pick a buddy

A friend can check in weekly. Support helps.

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Ask one.

TIP 29

Celebrate milestones

Mark your first friend or first invitation. Joy fuels progress.

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Plan a treat.

TIP 30

Invite others to plan together

A friend with the same goal can join. Share ideas.

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Ask one.

TIP 31

Keep the plan visible

A note on the fridge reminds you. Put it where you see it.

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Stick it up.

TIP 32

Keep going for a year

Friendship is a long game. Set a one-year check.

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Add a date.

Easy things to say

When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many everyday friendships.

PLAN

“My plan is one class, one event and one hello a day.”

SHARE

“I am working on meeting more people.”

ASK

“Would you like to join me?”

REPORT

“I kept my plan this week.”

ADJUST

“I will change one thing next month.”

THANKS

“Thanks for being part of it.”

Your first week

One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.

DAY 1
Write your three goals

DAY 2
Pick your weekly places

DAY 3
Put them in your calendar

DAY 4
Choose one hello habit

DAY 5
Tell a friend your plan

DAY 6
Track your week

DAY 7
Review in a month

Further reading

• Platonic (Marisa Franco)
• Never Eat Alone (Keith Ferrazzi)
• How to Talk to Anyone (Leil Lowndes)

The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.

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These lessons share general learning and everyday ideas. They are not medical or mental health advice. If you feel very anxious, low or unwell, please talk to a doctor or a qualified professional.