Use Public Events to Meet Locals
Eleven ways to use public events to meet locals and make friendly connections.
Public events are full of people who chose to be there. That is a good sign.
32 tips that really help
These ideas come from Platonic (Marisa Franco), Never Eat Alone (Keith Ferrazzi), How to Talk to Anyone (Leil Lowndes), and everyday practice. Pick one tip and try it today.
Events gather open people
People at fairs, markets and festivals are in a social mood. They expect to chat.
Look up an event in your area this month.
Check local listings
Council websites, libraries and community boards list free events.
Search three sources today.
Go early
Early arrivals meet organisers and regulars.
Arrive when the doors open.
Start with the event
What do you think of the music? is a simple opener.
Prepare one event question.
Talk to organisers
They know many people and are often glad to introduce you.
Ask an organiser for a recommendation.
Volunteer for a role
Handing out flyers or serving tea brings instant contact.
Ask if help is needed.
Bring a friend if shy
A friend can help you start and you can part later.
Invite one friend along.
Take part
Join the quiz, the game or the dance. Participation breaks the ice.
Pick one activity to join.
Follow local pages
Subscribe to event pages to know what is next.
Follow two local pages.
Share your experience
Tell a friend what you enjoyed.
Post or tell someone.
Check local listings weekly
Council sites, libraries and local pages list events. A quick weekly look keeps you informed.
Set a weekly reminder.
Choose events that suit your style
Quiet people may prefer talks and exhibitions, social people may prefer festivals. Pick what you enjoy.
Choose one.
Go early
Early arrivals meet organisers and regulars. It lowers the crowd stress.
Be early.
Volunteer to help
Stewards and helpers meet many people. Offer a few hours.
Sign up.
Attend with a friend
Bringing a friend makes it easier to start and to leave. Share the evening.
Invite one.
Talk to stallholders
They love to chat about their work. Ask one question.
Ask now.
Join a queue chat
Queues are natural talking places. Say something friendly.
Chat once.
Take part in activities
Join the quiz, the dance or the game. Participation starts chats.
Join one.
Learn about local history
Local events often highlight history. It gives you topics.
Read a leaflet.
Support local causes
Charity events bring kind people. Donate time or a small gift.
Choose a cause.
Take photos
Capture memories and share with new acquaintances. Ask permission.
Take a few.
Collect flyers
They show upcoming events. Plan your calendar.
Keep three.
Follow local social pages
They announce events and offers. Join one.
Follow two.
Attend regularly
Monthly markets and festivals create familiarity. Repeat visits build connection.
Mark dates.
Bring a camera or a notebook
It gives you a role and something to talk about. Use it.
Take one.
Dress for the weather
Comfort helps you stay longer. Check forecasts.
Prepare.
Set a one-hour minimum
Stay at least an hour to give things a chance. Time helps.
Commit.
Share your experience
Tell friends about the event. They may join next time.
Message one.
Thank organisers
Gratitude is appreciated. A short note works.
Send one.
Be open to chat
Smile and look approachable. People will start.
Smile.
Keep a list of events
A running list of what you enjoyed guides future choices.
Start it.
Make it a habit
One event a month adds up. Stay consistent.
Add to your calendar.
Easy things to say
When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many everyday friendships.
“Have you been to this event before?”
“What are you most looking forward to?”
“I live nearby and love events like this.”
“This is a great turnout.”
“Are you coming to the next one?”
“Nice meeting you, enjoy the rest of the day.”
Your first week
One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.
Check the local events calendar
Pick one event this month
Go and stay at least an hour
Talk to two people
Ask one organiser a question
Take a photo and share it
Plan to attend the next one
Further reading
- Platonic (Marisa Franco)
- Never Eat Alone (Keith Ferrazzi)
- How to Talk to Anyone (Leil Lowndes)
The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.
