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LESSON 07 · BUILDING SELF-CONFIDENCE

Write Your Own Worth Statement

Twelve steps to write a short statement that you can read when you doubt yourself.

You decide your worth. Write it down, then read it often.

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35 tips that really help

These ideas come from The Confidence Code (Katty Kay and Claire Shipman), The Gifts of Imperfection (Brené Brown), Mindset (Carol Dweck), and everyday practice. Pick one tip and try it today.

TIP 1

Why a worth statement works

Your mind believes what it hears most. A statement you repeat becomes a stronger voice than a passing doubt.

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Decide you will write one this week.

TIP 2

Start with true facts

A good statement uses facts, not wishes. I keep my promises is stronger than I am amazing.

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List five true facts about how you treat people.

TIP 3

Add your values

Values like kindness, honesty or courage show who you are even when results are slow.

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Pick three values you want in the statement.

TIP 4

Add what you offer

Think of what you give friends, family or work. It reminds you that you matter to others.

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Write two things you offer to the world.

TIP 5

Include your growth

Add that you are learning. It makes the statement kind and honest.

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Write: I am learning and I am improving.

TIP 6

Keep it short

Five or six lines are easy to remember. Long statements fade.

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Cut your draft to six lines at most.

TIP 7

Use first person present

Write I am and I do, not I will try. Present tense makes it feel real.

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Check each line starts with I am or I do.

TIP 8

Test it for honesty

If a line makes you cringe, soften it until it feels true. A believable line works better than a perfect one.

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Edit any line that feels fake.

TIP 9

Read it aloud

Hearing your own voice say it adds weight. Do it in the mirror if you can.

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Read it aloud three times today.

TIP 10

Place it where you will see it

Your phone lock screen, mirror or desk keeps it in sight. Visible words work.

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Save it as your phone wallpaper.

TIP 11

Update it often

You will change over time. A fresh version every few months keeps it alive.

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Set a reminder to review it in three months.

TIP 12

Share it with a friend

Saying it out loud to someone supportive makes it stick.

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Read your statement to one friend this week.

TIP 13

Collect words from people who love you

Ask three people for one word that describes you. These words can go into your statement.

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Text three people today.

TIP 14

Write your values first

Values are the base of worth. List five and choose two to include.

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List five values.

TIP 15

Include a line about your effort

I try, I care and I keep learning are all true for most of us. They sit well in a statement.

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Write one line about your effort.

TIP 16

Include a line about your kindness

Most people have moments of kindness to others. Write one example.

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Write one kind act and add it.

TIP 17

Include a line about your resilience

I have come through hard times is a fact. Make it part of your statement.

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Write one hard time you survived.

TIP 18

Avoid comparison words

Words like better or best invite comparison. Use words that stand alone.

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Cross out any comparison words.

TIP 19

Use your own voice

Write the way you speak. Honest simple words feel truer than fancy ones.

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Read it in your own voice.

TIP 20

Make it present and positive

I am worthy now is stronger than I will be worthy. Present tense lands.

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Check each line is in present tense.

TIP 21

Add a line for hard days

On hard days I am still worthy is a good line for tough moments. It protects you.

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Add a hard-day line.

TIP 22

Read it in the mirror

Looking at yourself as you read adds power. It may feel odd at first.

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Read it in the mirror tonight.

TIP 23

Record it on your phone

Hearing your own voice say it helps you absorb it. Play it on your commute.

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Record a one-minute voice note.

TIP 24

Pair it with a daily habit

Read it after brushing your teeth or making coffee. Habits make it stick.

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Link it to one habit.

TIP 25

Share only if you want

It is yours. Share it with a friend only if it feels safe.

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Decide who, if anyone, to share it with.

TIP 26

Print it in a nice font

Seeing it printed makes it feel official. Put it on your wall.

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Print and pin it up.

TIP 27

Add one image

A photo of a place or person you love gives the statement emotion. Pair them.

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Choose one image.

TIP 28

Update as you grow

Your statement should change as you change. Reread each season.

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Set a reminder for three months.

TIP 29

Keep it kind

If the words sound harsh, rewrite them. Kindness is the point.

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Soften one line.

TIP 30

Use it before challenges

Read it before a meeting, talk or date. It anchors your confidence.

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Read it before your next challenge.

TIP 31

Write a short version

A five-word version, such as I am enough and learning, can be used anywhere. Short phrases are portable.

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Write a five-word version.

TIP 32

Notice when you contradict it

If you break your statement in thought, gently return. No guilt needed.

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Pause and repeat the line.

TIP 33

Ask what you would say to a friend

If your friend wrote the statement, what would you add? Add it.

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Add one line you would give a friend.

TIP 34

Test it with a good day and a bad day

A strong statement works on both. Read it in both moods.

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Read it tonight whatever your mood.

TIP 35

Celebrate finishing it

Writing a worth statement takes courage. Say well done.

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Do something kind for yourself.

Easy things to say

When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many everyday situations.

READ

“I am a person who works hard and cares.”

VALUE

“I bring kindness and effort.”

STRENGTH

“I am good at listening and learning.”

REMIND

“I have handled hard days before.”

FUTURE

“I keep growing, one step at a time.”

CLOSE

“I am worthy right now.”

Your first week

One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.

DAY 1
List five facts about yourself

DAY 2
Write the first draft in five minutes

DAY 3
Read it out loud

DAY 4
Trim any word that is not true

DAY 5
Put it where you see it daily

DAY 6
Read it every morning

DAY 7
Share it with one person you trust

Further reading

• The Confidence Code (Katty Kay and Claire Shipman)
• The Gifts of Imperfection (Brené Brown)
• Mindset (Carol Dweck)

The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.

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