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LESSON 12 · SHOWING LOVE EVERY DAY

Laugh Together Every Day

Forty easy tips to laugh together every day, so joy becomes the heart of your love.

Laughter is glue. Play together.

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40 tips that really help

These ideas come from The 5 Love Languages (Gary Chapman), Eight Dates (John and Julie Gottman), Hold Me Tight (Sue Johnson), and everyday practice. Pick one tip and try it today.

TIP 1

Laughter protects love

Couples who laugh together feel closer and cope better with stress. Fun is a serious part of love.

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Laugh today.

TIP 2

Share jokes and funny videos

Send or show something silly daily. Shared giggles build bonds.

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Share one.

TIP 3

Play games together

Card games, board games or silly challenges bring joy and teamwork.

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Play one.

TIP 4

Tell funny stories from your day

Choose the light moments and exaggerate gently. Stories make evenings bright.

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Tell one.

TIP 5

Be playful in daily tasks

Dance while cooking or race to fold laundry. Play turns chores into fun.

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Add play.

TIP 6

Use silly nicknames and inside jokes

Private jokes create a secret world. Keep them kind and warm.

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Make one.

TIP 7

Laugh at yourself

Self-teasing shows humility and eases tension. Avoid mocking your partner.

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Laugh kindly.

TIP 8

Watch comedy together

Pick a comedy show or film and laugh side by side. Laughter is contagious.

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Choose a comedy.

TIP 9

Create small surprises

Hide a silly note or wear a funny hat. Surprise sparks giggles.

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Surprise them.

TIP 10

Remember funny moments

Look through old photos and recall the fun. Memories refresh joy.

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Share one.

TIP 11

Keep humour kind

Never laugh at their pain or insecurities. Gentle humour unites.

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Check your jokes.

TIP 12

Example: the kitchen dance

Alex and Pam dance while they cook. They say dinner always starts with laughter.

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Dance together.

TIP 13

Example: the inside joke

Their joke about a lost umbrella still makes them smile years later.

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Make a joke.

TIP 14

Example: the game night

They play a silly game every Sunday and keep score on the fridge. Both look forward to it.

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Start a game night.

TIP 15

Script: sharing

Look at this, it made me think of you and I laughed. Say it brightly.

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Use it.

TIP 16

Script: inviting play

Shall we play a quick game before bed? Say it lightly.

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Use it.

TIP 17

Script: teasing kindly

You are the funniest person I know. Say it warmly.

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Use it.

TIP 18

Script: thanking

Thank you for making me laugh today. Say it sincerely.

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Use it.

TIP 19

Mistake: using sarcasm as humour

Sarcasm can wound, so choose kind jokes.

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Be kind.

TIP 20

Mistake: stopping fun after years together

Play keeps love young, so keep it going.

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Keep playing.

TIP 21

Troubleshoot: when stress kills the mood

Start with a small smile, a silly face or a short walk. Gentle steps help.

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Start small.

TIP 22

Troubleshoot: when you do not share a sense of humour

Find what you both enjoy, such as animals or old films, and use that.

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Find common ground.

TIP 23

Troubleshoot: when you feel too sad to laugh

Sit together quietly and watch something gentle. Joy will return in time.

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Be gentle.

TIP 24

Drill: laugh together once a day for a week

Find one funny thing a day and share it.

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Try a week.

TIP 25

Drill: create an inside-joke list

Write down your private jokes and read them when you need a smile.

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Write a list.

TIP 26

Book idea: humour as glue

Researchers find that couples who laugh together report higher satisfaction and cope better with stress.

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Share a laugh today.

TIP 27

Book idea: playfulness protects love

Gottman describes humour as a repair tool that can break tension during arguments when it is gentle and kind.

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Use kind humour.

TIP 28

Myth: serious people make better partners

Seriousness has its place, but warmth, play and laughter keep love alive and strong.

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Lighten up.

TIP 29

Myth: humour means never taking things seriously

You can be funny and still care deeply, and laughter often opens the door to honest talk.

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Mix both.

TIP 30

Story: Zoe and the silly voice

Zoe used a silly voice to say I love you when they were tense, and her partner burst out laughing and hugged her.

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Try a funny voice.

TIP 31

Story: Ned starts a joke jar

Ned and his wife wrote funny moments on slips and read them on hard days.

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Start a jar.

TIP 32

Journal: what makes me laugh the most?

Knowing your humour helps you share it with your partner.

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Write five things.

TIP 33

Journal: what shared jokes do we have?

Private jokes are like a secret language of love.

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List three.

TIP 34

Challenge: watch a comedy together once a week

Laughing side by side builds a happy habit.

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Pick a show.

TIP 35

Challenge: share one funny story every day

A daily laugh builds closeness and brightens busy days.

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Start tonight.

TIP 36

Green flag: you can laugh at yourselves together

Gentle shared laughter is a sign of security.

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Enjoy it.

TIP 37

Red flag: humour that hurts or mocks

Jokes at someone’s expense harm trust, so keep humour kind.

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Choose gentle jokes.

TIP 38

Quick win: send a funny photo or meme

A tiny laugh in the day keeps connection warm.

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Send one.

TIP 39

Fun fact: laughter lowers stress

Studies show that laughing reduces stress hormones and boosts feelings of closeness.

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Share it.

TIP 40

Mini habit: find one thing to laugh about each day

Daily humour trains your mind to find light.

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Start today.

Easy things to say

When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many love and relationship moments.

LAUGH

“That was so funny.”

SHARE

“Look at this.”

PLAY

“Let us play a game.”

JOKE

“Here is a silly joke.”

JOY

“I love laughing with you.”

CLOSE

“Thank you for making me smile.”

Your first week

One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.

DAY 1
Watch something funny

DAY 2
Share a joke

DAY 3
Play a game

DAY 4
Make silly faces

DAY 5
Tell a funny story

DAY 6
Laugh at yourself

DAY 7
End with a smile

Further reading

• The 5 Love Languages (Gary Chapman)
• Eight Dates (John and Julie Gottman)
• Hold Me Tight (Sue Johnson)

The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.

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