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LESSON 09 · MAINTAINING YOUR NETWORK

Celebrate Their Wins

Eighteen easy tips to celebrate their wins, so your joy for others builds strong and happy links.

Cheer loudly. Joy shared is doubled.

24 tipsEasy things to say7-day plan

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24 tips that really help

These ideas come from Never Eat Alone (Keith Ferrazzi), Give and Take (Adam Grant), Platonic (Marisa Franco), and everyday practice. Pick one tip and try it today.

TIP 1

Why celebrating matters

Celebrating wins strengthens bonds. People remember those who cheered for them.

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Cheer today.

TIP 2

Notice good news

Look for promotions, launches and personal wins. Noticing is half the gift.

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Look for news.

TIP 3

Send a quick note

A fast message feels warm. Do not wait for a perfect line.

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Send it.

TIP 4

Name the effort

Say, you worked hard for this. Effort praise feels real.

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Name effort.

TIP 5

Share your joy

Say how happy you feel for them. Genuine joy is a gift.

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Say it.

TIP 6

Ask how they are celebrating

Show interest in their plans. It invites a warm chat.

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Ask kindly.

TIP 7

Cheer in public

Comment on their post with a kind line. Public praise is powerful.

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Cheer publicly.

TIP 8

Offer a small celebration

A coffee or a card marks the moment. Keep it simple.

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Offer a treat.

TIP 9

Script: congrats

Congratulations, Maya, I am so proud of you. Say it warmly.

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Use it.

TIP 10

Script: effort

You worked so hard for this and it shows. Say it kindly.

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Use it.

TIP 11

Script: celebrate

Let me take you out for a coffee to celebrate. Say it brightly.

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Use it.

TIP 12

Mistake: feeling jealous and staying silent

Silence hurts bonds, so share joy anyway.

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Cheer anyway.

TIP 13

Mistake: turning it into your story

Keep the spotlight on them, so listen.

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Keep focus.

TIP 14

Mistake: sending a cold message

Add warmth and detail, so be personal.

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Add warmth.

TIP 15

Troubleshoot: when you feel envy

Admit it to yourself, then celebrate. Joy grows with practice.

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Be honest.

TIP 16

Troubleshoot: when you missed the news

Send a late message, and say you are happy for them. Better late than never.

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Send late.

TIP 17

Drill: keep a wins list

Write the wins of five people you know and send one note.

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Write five.

TIP 18

Share the news with others

Cheer in public if they are comfortable.

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Share kindly.

TIP 19

Plan a small celebration

A coffee or a call makes it special.

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Plan one.

TIP 20

Example: the promotion party

Ravi organised a quick lunch for a friend’s promotion. It was a joyful hour.

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Plan lunch.

TIP 21

Example: the graduation note

Sue sent a note on a friend’s graduation day. He called her to say thanks.

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Send a note.

TIP 22

Keep a small celebration fund for friends

Setting aside a little money each month for cards or treats makes it easy to celebrate friends without stress.

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Start a small fund.

TIP 23

Share the good news with mutual friends if allowed

With permission, telling mutual friends about a win spreads joy and lets many people cheer for them.

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Ask permission first.

TIP 24

Ask them to tell you the story of how it happened

Inviting a full story lets them relive the win and shows you care about the journey, not just the result.

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Ask for the story.

Easy things to say

When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many networking and career moments.

CHEER

“Congratulations!”

PROUD

“I am so proud of you.”

DETAIL

“You worked so hard for this.”

ASK

“How are you celebrating?”

SHARE

“I would love to hear more.”

CLOSE

“Well done.”

Your first week

One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.

DAY 1
Notice wins

DAY 2
Send a note

DAY 3
Name the effort

DAY 4
Share the joy

DAY 5
Offer a toast

DAY 6
Share publicly

DAY 7
Remember

Further reading

• Never Eat Alone (Keith Ferrazzi)
• Give and Take (Adam Grant)
• Platonic (Marisa Franco)

The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.

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