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LESSON 38 · HEAR WHAT THEY REALLY MEAN

The One-Question-Per-Topic Rule

Practical ways to apply the one-question-per-topic rule, so you ask well instead of firing questions rapidly.

One good question per topic goes deeper. Ask, listen, follow up, then move on.

10 tipsEasy things to say7-day plan
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10 tips that really help

These ideas come from Never Split the Difference (Chris Voss), You’re Not Listening (Kate Murphy), The Lost Art of Listening (Michael Nichols), and everyday practice. The first six help the most. Pick one and try it today.

Photo for the tip: One question per topic keeps focus
TIP 1

One question per topic keeps focus

Asking several questions at once confuses customers and gets partial answers.

TRY THIS
Ask one, then wait.
Photo for the tip: Choose your best question
TIP 2

Choose your best question

Pick the one question that digs deepest on the topic before asking anything else.

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Prepare it in advance.
Photo for the tip: Wait for the full answer
TIP 3

Wait for the full answer

Resist stacking a second question before the first has been answered.

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Count to three.
Photo for the tip: Let their answer guide your next question
TIP 4

Let their answer guide your next question

Following their lead shows you listened and keeps the talk natural.

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Build on their words.
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TIP 5

Avoid double questions in one sentence

Questions like what and when and how confuse the listener.

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Edit your phrasing.
Photo for the tip: Keep questions short
TIP 6

Keep questions short

Brief questions are easier to understand and to answer thoughtfully.

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Trim the extra words.
Photo for the tip: Move on when the topic is done
TIP 7

Move on when the topic is done

Signal a change with a short sentence so the customer can follow your path.

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Say now let us look at.
Photo for the tip: Return later to missed areas
TIP 8

Return later to missed areas

If you skipped something important, come back politely at the end.

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Keep a note.
Photo for the tip: Practise the discipline
TIP 9

Practise the discipline

It takes training to resist stacking questions, so count them in your practice calls.

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Tally weekly.
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TIP 10

Review calls for stacking

Listening back reveals how often you pile questions together.

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Fix one pattern.

Easy things to say

When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many sales conversations.

ASK

“What is your biggest challenge with deliveries?”

FOLLOW

“Tell me more about that.”

PAUSE

“(Listen.)”

MOVE

“Now, may I ask about timing?”

CHECK

“Have we covered deliveries?”

THANKS

“That is very clear.”

Your first week

One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.

DAY 1
Pick topics before the call
DAY 2
Prepare one main question per topic
DAY 3
Ask and listen fully
DAY 4
Follow up once or twice
DAY 5
Summarise before moving on
DAY 6
Avoid stacking questions
DAY 7
Review

Further reading

  • Never Split the Difference (Chris Voss)
  • You’re Not Listening (Kate Murphy)
  • The Lost Art of Listening (Michael Nichols)

The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.

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These lessons share general learning and everyday ideas. They are not medical or mental health advice. If you feel very anxious, low or unwell, please talk to a doctor or a qualified professional.

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  2. Give Full Attention, Every Time
  3. Put Your Phone Away
  4. Stop Planning Your Reply
  5. Let Them Finish
  6. Listen for the Feeling Underneath
  7. Make Silence Work for You
  8. Label the Emotion: "It Sounds Like..."
  9. Mirror Their Last Words
  10. Say "That Seems Hard" and Mean It
  11. Use a Calm, Slow Voice
  12. Say "How Am I Supposed to Do That?"
  13. Get to "That Is Right"
  14. Why Empathy Is Not Weakness
  15. Tone Tells More Than Words
  16. Watch for Hesitation
  17. What a Long Pause Means
  18. Spot Buying Signals
  19. Spot Warning Signs Early
  20. Ask the Question Behind the Question
  21. Notice What They Keep Repeating
  22. Summarise in Your Own Words
  23. Ask "Did I Get That Right?"
  24. Write Down Their Exact Phrases
  25. Use Their Words in Your Proposal
  26. Clear Up Confusion Kindly
  27. Confirm Priorities Before Moving On
  28. Ask "What Else?" One More Time
  29. Let an Angry Customer Vent
  30. Stay Calm When They Attack
  31. Acknowledge Before You Answer
  32. Handle Interruptions Gracefully
  33. Listen to a Rambler Without Getting Lost
  34. When the Customer Is Quiet
  35. Practise With Friends and Family
  36. Record and Review a Call
  37. Count Your Talk Time
  38. The One-Question-Per-Topic Rule
  39. Take Better Notes
  40. Become the Best Listener in the Room
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