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LESSON 02 · HEAR WHAT THEY REALLY MEAN

Give Full Attention, Every Time

Practical ways to give full attention every time, because attention is the rarest gift a seller can offer.

Attention is a form of respect. Give all of it, even briefly.

11 tipsEasy things to say7-day plan

11 tips that really help

These ideas come from Never Split the Difference (Chris Voss), You’re Not Listening (Kate Murphy), The Lost Art of Listening (Michael Nichols), and everyday practice. The first six help the most. Pick one and try it today.

TIP 1

Attention is the first gift you give

When a customer feels fully heard, they relax, share more and trust you faster than any pitch could earn.

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Give one call your complete focus today.

TIP 2

Prepare your mind before the call

Take one slow breath and clear your desk so your thoughts are not pulled in ten directions.

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Close extra tabs before each meeting.

TIP 3

Face the person with your whole body

Turning toward someone and softening your face tells them they matter more than anything else in the room.

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Notice where your shoulders point.

TIP 4

Keep your eyes on them

Steady, friendly eye contact shows interest and helps you catch small changes in their expression.

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Look away only to think.

TIP 5

Listen for the point behind the words

People rarely say exactly what they mean first, so stay patient and let the main idea appear.

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Ask yourself what they are really saying.

TIP 6

Do not multitask on calls

Typing emails during a conversation is noticed through your voice and breaks trust quickly.

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Do one thing at a time.

TIP 7

Show you are present with small sounds

Soft responses like I see and go on tell the speaker you are with them without interrupting.

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Use one in every minute.

TIP 8

Take brief notes of key words

A few written words help you remember without forcing you to stare at a page.

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Jot three words per answer.

TIP 9

Protect the first five minutes

The opening of a conversation sets the tone, so give it your full attention before anything else.

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Mute alerts before you start.

TIP 10

Notice when your mind wanders

Drifting is normal, and gently returning to the speaker is the skill that builds a great listener.

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Bring yourself back without guilt.

TIP 11

Make full attention a habit

Practise with family and colleagues, because the skill grows through everyday use.

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Choose one person to listen to fully today.

Easy things to say

When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many sales conversations.

PRESENT

“I have set aside this time just for you.”

FOCUS

“Please go on, I am listening.”

CHECK

“Let me make sure I understand.”

PAUSE

“One moment while I note that.”

THANKS

“Thank you for explaining so clearly.”

“That was very helpful.”

Your first week

One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.

DAY 1
Clear your desk before a call

DAY 2
Close other windows

DAY 3
Put your phone in a drawer

DAY 4
Look at the speaker

DAY 5
Breathe before they start

DAY 6
Summarise what you heard

DAY 7
Reflect on how it felt

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Keep going. Small steps every day make a big change.

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