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Fight Fair and Grow Closer.
20 lessons · 5 themes · practical tips in every lesson
Practical ways to cool down, stop fights from growing and fix problems together.
THEME 1 · 4 LESSONS
Why Couples Argue
See the real reasons behind the fight.
LESSON 01
Arguments Are Normal
LESSON 02
Find the Real Need Behind the Fight
LESSON 03
Know Your Triggers
LESSON 04
Spot the Fight Cycle
THEME 2 · 4 LESSONS
Cool Down First
Calm body, clear mind.
LESSON 05
Stop and Breathe Before You Speak
LESSON 06
Take a Kind Time-Out
LESSON 07
Lower Your Voice on Purpose
LESSON 08
Never Argue When Tired or Hungry
THEME 3 · 4 LESSONS
Fight Fair
Rules that protect your love.
LESSON 09
No Name-Calling or Insults
LESSON 10
Stay on One Topic
LESSON 11
Do Not Bring Up the Past
LESSON 12
Avoid Always and Never
THEME 4 · 4 LESSONS
Fix the Problem
Solve it as a team.
LESSON 13
Say Sorry and Mean It
LESSON 14
Take Your Share of the Blame
LESSON 15
Find a Middle Path Together
LESSON 16
Make Up Warmly
THEME 5 · 4 LESSONS
Hard Fights
When things feel stuck.
LESSON 17
Handle a Partner Who Shuts Down
LESSON 18
Handle a Partner Who Shouts
LESSON 19
Stop the Silent Treatment
LESSON 20
When to Ask a Counsellor for Help
Ideas in this topic come from
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (John Gottman)
- Nonviolent Communication (Marshall Rosenberg)
- The Dance of Anger (Harriet Lerner)
- Getting the Love You Want (Harville Hendrix)
- Crucial Conversations (Kerry Patterson et al.)
Tips are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.
