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LESSON 31 · HANDLING REJECTION

Ask for a Discount, Just to Practise

Thirty-two ways to ask for a discount just to practise, a playful way to get comfortable hearing no.

Haggling is a skill. Practise politely.

40 tipsEasy things to say7-day plan

Start with tip 1

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40 tips that really help

These ideas come from Rejection Proof (Jia Jiang), Grit (Angela Duckworth), The Obstacle Is the Way (Ryan Holiday), and everyday practice. Pick one tip and try it today.

TIP 1

Ask for a discount just to practise

Asking for a discount is a safe way to train your voice. The worst outcome is a polite no, and the best is real savings. Either way, your comfort with asking grows.

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Pick a place where you can ask politely this week.

TIP 2

Choose the right places

Local markets, small shops and service businesses often have room to negotiate. Large chains with fixed prices usually do not.

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Visit a place where haggling is normal.

TIP 3

Be polite and relaxed

A friendly tone works best. Smile and speak slowly.

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Practise the tone.

TIP 4

Use a simple phrase

“Is there any flexibility on the price?” is short, polite and common.

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Memorise it.

TIP 5

Ask, then wait

After you ask, stay quiet. Silence gives them space to answer. Do not rush to fill it.

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Count to five.

TIP 6

Offer a reason

“I’m buying two” or “I’m paying in cash” gives a reason to discount.

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Prepare a reason.

TIP 7

Ask about bundles

Ask if buying several items lowers the price.

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Try it.

TIP 8

Ask about seasonal sales

Ask when the next sale is. You may get an early deal.

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Ask politely.

TIP 9

Ask about loyalty perks

Many shops have member discounts.

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Ask what they offer.

TIP 10

Ask about open-box items

Ask if there are slightly used or display items.

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Request them.

TIP 11

Ask about price matching

Some stores will match a competitor’s price.

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Bring evidence.

TIP 12

Ask about fees

Ask whether a fee can be waived, such as a late fee or delivery charge.

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Be courteous.

TIP 13

Ask subscription services

Ask for a better rate before cancelling.

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Call and ask.

TIP 14

Ask for an upgrade

Ask for a better seat, room or size when it’s free.

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Smile.

TIP 15

Be fair

Never demand or insult. Respect the seller’s work.

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Be kind.

TIP 16

Be ready for no

Say, “No problem, thank you for your time.” A graceful exit keeps the relationship.

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Practise your goodbye.

TIP 17

Notice your feelings

Notice nerves and embarrassment. They fade with practice.

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Rate your nerves.

TIP 18

Celebrate a no

Mark it as practice completed. You asked!

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Tick it off.

TIP 19

Celebrate a yes

Enjoy the saving, but remember the point is practice.

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Smile.

TIP 20

Track results

Count asks, yeses and savings.

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Create a tally.

TIP 21

Scene: a street market

Ask for a better price on two items.

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Be friendly.

TIP 22

Scene: a hotel

Ask for a late checkout or room change.

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Ask at the desk.

TIP 23

Scene: a restaurant

Ask for a small perk, like a free side for a group.

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Be polite.

TIP 24

Scene: a clothing shop

Ask if there’s any discount on a slightly flawed item.

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Point it out kindly.

TIP 25

Scene: an online shop

Use chat support to ask for a promo code.

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Write a short message.

TIP 26

Scene: a service provider

Ask if there’s a better rate for a long-term contract.

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Ask early.

TIP 27

Scene: a gym

Ask about a trial or joining deal.

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Compare offers.

TIP 28

Scene: a mechanic

Ask whether a service can be bundled.

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Ask clearly.

TIP 29

Scene: a landlord

Ask whether a small rent change is possible for a longer lease.

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Prepare facts.

TIP 30

Scene: a phone provider

Ask for the best current deal for loyal customers.

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Call and ask.

TIP 31

Know your limits

Do not push in places where prices are fixed or where it would be unfair.

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Respect norms.

TIP 32

Know the culture

Haggling is normal in some places and rude in others. Learn the local customs.

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Observe first.

TIP 33

Be fair to small sellers

Support small businesses; ask gently and pay fairly.

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Be considerate.

TIP 34

Use the saved money well

Treat yourself or give to a cause.

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Choose.

TIP 35

Use it as practice

The saving is a bonus; the habit is the prize.

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Focus on practice.

TIP 36

Practise with a friend

Role-play before going out.

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Rehearse.

TIP 37

Reflect afterwards

Write what you learned about asking.

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Write three lines.

TIP 38

Repeat monthly

Make it a habit.

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Set a reminder.

TIP 39

Share your tips

Teach others.

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Tell a friend.

TIP 40

Close with a smile

Say, “It never hurts to ask kindly.”

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Write it.

Easy things to say

When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many everyday situations.

ASK

“Is there any flexibility on the price?”

OFFER

“Could you do a little better?”

BUNDLE

“If I take two, is there a deal?”

THANK

“Thank you for checking.”

ACCEPT

“No problem, I understand.”

CLOSE

“I appreciate your help.”

Your first week

One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.

DAY 1
Choose a safe setting

DAY 2
Be polite

DAY 3
Ask for a small discount

DAY 4
Wait quietly

DAY 5
Accept the answer

DAY 6
Thank them

DAY 7
Notice how it felt

Further reading

• Rejection Proof (Jia Jiang)
• Grit (Angela Duckworth)
• The Obstacle Is the Way (Ryan Holiday)

The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.

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