Celebrate Every Brave Invite
Thirty-two easy ways to celebrate every brave invite, because courage deserves a party whatever the answer.
Asking is the win. Celebrate the try.
29 tips that really help
These ideas come from Rejection Proof (Jia Jiang), Attached (Amir Levine and Rachel Heller), Daring Greatly (Brené Brown), and everyday practice. Pick one tip and try it today.
Redefine winning
If success means only a yes, you feel good rarely. If success means asking bravely, you win every time.
Change the scoreboard.
Count the invites
Keep a tally of invitations sent. The number is within your control.
Start counting.
Set an invite target
Aim for a number per month, like four. Targets turn courage into routine.
Pick a number.
Mark each invite
Tick a calendar or drop a coin in a jar. Visible marks feel rewarding.
Make a chart.
Reward yourself at once
A small treat right after inviting links bravery with pleasure.
Plan treats.
Say well done
Say it out loud or in your head. Self-praise builds confidence.
Say it.
Share the news
Tell a friend you invited someone. Shared joy is stronger.
Message someone.
Reward bigger invites more
Scale the reward to the courage. A hard invite earns a bigger celebration.
Create a scale.
Celebrate noes too
When someone declines, say, one step closer to a yes. Reframe.
Practise the line.
Review monthly totals
Read your tallies and notice growth. Numbers show courage.
Add them up.
Raise the bar gradually
As invites get easier, aim a little higher. Growth lives at the edge.
Stretch.
Encourage others
Cheer for friends when they invite. Culture spreads.
Share the idea.
Script: celebrating
I invited someone today, and that took courage. Say it proudly.
Use it.
Script: counting
That was my fifth invite this month, a record. Say it cheerfully.
Use it.
Script: sharing
I did something brave today, I asked someone to coffee. Say it warmly.
Use it.
Script: rewarding
I am treating myself because I tried. Say it kindly.
Use it.
Script: closing
Thanks for cheering me on, it really helps. Say it sincerely.
Use it.
Mistake: celebrating only yeses
Then most days feel like failure, so celebrate attempts.
Change the rule.
Mistake: skipping rewards
Without reward, habits fade, so treat yourself.
Plan one.
Mistake: huge rewards for tiny invites
Keep rewards in proportion, so be sensible.
Balance.
Mistake: comparing counts
Everyone starts differently, so compare with your past.
Stay personal.
Troubleshoot: when you feel silly celebrating
Silly is fine. Joy is serious fuel.
Do it anyway.
Troubleshoot: when you have nobody to tell
Write it in a journal or post in a community. Your own acknowledgement counts.
Write it.
Troubleshoot: when noes pile up
Look at invite counts, not outcomes. Celebrate courage.
Check totals.
Troubleshoot: when invites stall
Lower the bar to a tiny invite. Restart the streak.
Invite small.
Troubleshoot: when you forget
Add a reminder or link inviting to a weekly habit. Cues help.
Set a reminder.
Drill: the invite jar
Put a coin in a jar for each invite. Count monthly.
Begin.
Drill: celebration list
List ten small rewards you enjoy. Use them.
Write.
Drill: share a win
Tell one person about an invite today. Notice the smile.
Do it.
Easy things to say
When you are stuck, pick one of these. They work in many everyday friendships.
“I asked, and that took courage.”
“That was my fifth invite this month.”
“I did something brave today.”
“I am treating myself.”
“Thanks for cheering me on.”
“I am proud of me.”
Your first week
One small action a day. Each day is only a little bigger than the last.
Define a win
Count your invites
Mark each one
Reward yourself
Share the news
Review monthly
Raise the bar
Further reading
- Rejection Proof (Jia Jiang)
- Attached (Amir Levine and Rachel Heller)
- Daring Greatly (Brené Brown)
The tips above are written in our own words and are general guidance. The books are suggestions for further reading.
